I haven’t mentioned my home owner’s association (HOA) for a while. Nothing much has happened on that front for about a year, but it’s time for our annual meeting again.
My HOA Experiences
For anybody just joining BFS, my husband and I built our home in a neighborhood with an HOA. Let’s just say that the relationship didn’t get off on the right foot…or ever even find the right foot.
We started receiving violation letters about 4 months after moving in. Some letters were about parking in the street, which we stopped doing. A few were about maintenance stuff like our yard or small oil stains, which we also handled. One set was about having our friends living with us, which we all agreed to ignore. A couple weren’t actually for us at all.
One was for the wrong home (we weren’t building the patio in question). Another was in reference to having large groups of people over that park in the street too often. I explained that we generally only have 1 potluck a month, but other people on our street use the utility easement curb to park too. So we were being reported even on the days we had no visitors at all (like when our neighbors had graduation parties or crawfish boils, which were awesome, but not our get togethers, lol).
All in all, I wasn’t happy, I wrote about it, that just pissed off the angry people more, and it turned vicious for a few months. It all eventually led to at least one guy going door-to-door while I was out of town to ensure that I wasn’t elected to the HOA board last year. That same guy started questioning me personally at the actual election meeting, which I held up to well in the meeting itself, but I had a small emotional breakdown for a couple of days afterwards. A few of my neighbors came by later to show their support, and that helped. By the end of October 2013, I just decided to drop the whole subject and that has seemed to work.
HOA Meeting Today
I had been skipping the bimonthly HOA meetings, but our annual, large HOA meeting is this evening. They are discussing the new homes being added onto the back of our neighborhood, the annual finances, and hopefully we won’t be seeing a dues increase. Despite my general unwelcomed feelings around the HOA board, I’m probably attending since an update on any of those subjects sounds interesting to me. I also think at least 2-3 of the board members are generally ambivalent towards me, which is nearly as good as being liked.
I just wonder if I’ll see many others there. Even though we pay about $720 a year in dues, most families who live here don’t have the time or energy to get involved, and they leave the big decisions to the board and those of us who vote. I completely understand since life is crazy off and on for everybody. I’m just hoping a bunch of my neighbors can make it. The board makes money decisions all of the time for us, and this is one of the few chances for us to be truly involved.
That said, do you attend your big, annual HOA meeting?