I was reading this post at my blogging friend’s site, Surviving and Thriving, about 15 things she likes to do. She mentions that she got the idea from a 20 things list that my other blogging buddy made over on his site, Get Rich Slowly. And sex was right up there with both of them (#1 for Donna – hubba, hubba…those puns must really work). 😉
Well, let’s see what I can come up with pretty quickly:
Intimate Time with my Husband
I do like sex. But I also rate snuggling way up there. And I enjoy the times we just tell each other about our day and make plans for the next one. Pretty much, I’m lumping all my hubby relationship stuff together.
Hang Out with Close Friends
My close friends are like my counselors and adopted family combined. I’m not sure they know how truly important they are to me. 10 years ago, I didn’t have that. It was my husband, some acquaintances, and our families. Now we have this amazing support network. Board gaming and blogging are the two hobbies that truly opened up the world to my hubby and me.
Our support network kicks butt. Between our friends and family, we know we are some of the luckiest people alive. We know our families are there for us no matter what. We have more baggage with them than we do with our friends, but that doesn’t take away from the gratefulness we have that they love us unconditionally even when they don’t like us as much as usual, lol.
Play Whack a Mole with my Unborn Daughter
I love being able to poke my unborn child and FEEL HER POKE BACK. I also think the whole belly moving when she moves part is quite creepy cool, but just playing whack a mole with my baby through my belly is like my favorite part of pregnancy thus far. I’ll admit the bar is pretty low since pregnancy seems to be a sucky way to reproduce. That whole “miracle of birth” thing for me is “the miracle is when you both survive”. But yeah, being able to interact with her is super cool.
Snuggle and General Time with Our Pets
Miss Vicky the cat is a great snuggler. She’ll just go to sleep on me if I’m ever in a reclined position anywhere. Our pup, Khaleesi, is a solid companion though our favorite times together are actually her walks. She just never looks as happy as she does when we’re walking the neighborhood. Miss Rachel, our other cat, is fun to watch since she is just so purely cat. She chitters at birds outside the window, gets head scritches as she demands them, and spends most of her time asleep.
Play with Pets in General (Why I Started Crystal’s Cozy Care)
I enjoy hanging out with animals. I can talk about anything, be silly, get on the floor with them, etc. They just love everything as long as you are paying attention to them. It makes you feel special even though most friendly pets make everyone feel that way. Pets just provide a magical medicine for your inner child and ask for so little in return.
I’ve written about this before – helping others is one of my favorite things. If I’m depressed, volunteering reminds me that I am not the center of the universe and that actually pops me out of depression pretty quickly. If I can help a neighbor find their escaped dog, I’ll feel like a useful hero for days. Just being able to assist anyone seems to help me just as much as I am helping them.
Blog Here and See Y’alls Comments
You, the readers, have always been why I blogged. I started and just hoped anyone would read. Then you started commenting. That made it a community. I love this community.
Watch TV and Movies
I know, it’s supposedly a waste of time. But I truly appreciate the work that goes into my favorite shows and movies – writers, actors, makeup artists, set designers, sound crews, directors, etc. – those are all people who work together to create a show or movie that captivates me. Some of my favorites make me want to be a part of their world. Some make me happy that I’m not in their world, lol. And they all help me take needed breaks from my own worries and responsibilities for short periods of time.
Listen to Audio Books
Audio books have single-handedly kept me from becoming another story of road rage on the night time news. I used to love reading real books, but now can only seem to make the time for that during vacations like cruises. But I drive nearly every day. And audio books on CD from our local library system keep me entertained enough to not stress when I’m stuck in slow traffic or needing to run an errand that I see as a waste of time. Sometimes, I will actually run a few more errands than planned if a book has just gotten to a really good part.
Keep up with my Facebook Groups and Neighbors on Nextdoor.com
I know…I avoided social media for YEARS. Like the flu. But I’ve made friends online and can help people with some questions, so now a few Facebook groups and my local Nextdoor.com group have become places where I just loiter when I have a few minutes and chime in occasionally.
Make Money from Self-Employment
Logging a $20 pet sitting check makes me smile nearly as hard as closing a $200 guest post deal. Making money with businesses that I created from scratch is fulfilling. I felt like I sort of earned my money before, but I had no real control. Now I feel empowered by just knowing that I can do things I enjoy, help others while doing it (which I enjoy even more), and make money for it to boot!!!
Cruises with Hubby and Trips with Friends
I literally dream of cruising with my husband. We usually take 1-2 a year and yet it continues to be an actual dream I have every few months. That is how much I enjoy unplugging from everything and just going away with Len.
I also daydream about weekend getaways (like the annual ones Dee and I take using Airbnb) and road trips with friends. For example, I’ve stopped typing several times today to think about how long it’s been since my last trip to New Orleans and wondering if any of my friends would want to get away with me a few months after my daughter is born.
I’ll throw cooking into this category too, but I’ll be honest…I only enjoy cooking for the end results. I truly enjoy food. But I’m not a foodie by most people’s standards. I like soooooo many different types, styles, qualities…honestly, I can make myself happy drinking a taro smoothie with boba one afternoon just as much as I enjoyed wrapping a smoked sausage link in bread and scarfing it down a few hours earlier. I just baked up some boneless pork loin spare ribs with Cajun Power Garlic Sauce and will enjoy devouring them just like the beanie weenies I made for lunch (leftover sweet baked beans, liberal addition of mustard, squirt of ketchup, two cheap hotdogs chopped up, and all microwaved for 2 minutes). Mexican, Vietnamese, Italian, Persian…I’m not picky. If my taste buds like the food, I take true pleasure from eating it. Period.
Publish My Pregnancy Saga on Babycenter
When I was scared that this pregnancy was yet another miscarriage, I started a thread on Babycenter about that dread. I then started updating it every time this pregnancy went a step further. Now it’s gathered a handful of tuned in followers and has helped at least a half dozen women (according to their comments) by acknowledging their own fears. We’re following each other’s journeys now.
Big or small, I like racking up the accomplishments. I re-filed all of the pet sitting checklists today from the last month or two of taking them out of their alphabetized binder as needed. It only took about 20 minutes but I felt like the queen of the world when I was done. Finishing this post is going to make me feel accomplished for today since I’ve put it off since Tuesday. Heck, doing the dishes makes me feel lighter.
Remember how happy I was when I quit my cubicle job to blog full time? Or the exuberance over paying off our first home after we bought this one? Yeah…those were awesome and you’ll keep getting updates on big ones like that (for example, delivering this baby), but the small ones make up my day-to-day happiness. I am surprised by how exhausted I feel after just an hour of doing anything right now. That means my achievement bar is set a bit lower than normal, but I’m growing a human, so I’m cool with it.
Being the Center of Attention for Good Stuff
So, of course I rather everybody just pretend I’m not around when I am acting a fool. But for good moments, moments I’m proud of, or for the fun things like birthdays and baby showers, I love being the center of attention. It’s my happy place. My introvert friends and hubby don’t really understand it, but they know me by now, lol. Sometimes it’s just nice that it is all about you.
I’m in love with sleep. I like going to bed and sinking onto my pregnancy pillow. I love day time naps now that I hit pregnancy-exhaustion walls. Hubby and I are already making plans on how to tag team baby care so we both continue being able to get real sleep. I’ll come back to laugh at myself for that last sentence in a few months, promise.
We only take the time to wash our bed sheets every 2-3 weeks. I don’t know what the norm is, but I truly appreciate those first few nights of that yummy clean sheets. It’s just awesome. We’d do it more often but making the bed is one of our least fun parts, so it is what it is…
New Notebooks/Journals and Trustworthy Pens
I like the promise a new notebook or journal has with its empty pages. They call to me to create to-do lists that can be fully checked off someday. Or to make notes of things I’ll smile at when I come across them a few years later. They are physical representations of clean slates.
With pens, I don’t care if it has a hotel-logo or is a fancy personalized variety. If the pen writes smoothly and doesn’t feel flimsy in my hand, I like it. I despise those plastic ones with little springs that pop out easily. I want to be able to trust my pen.
What are a few of your favorite things to do? Does a full list of 20 pop into your head pretty quickly?
FYI: I worked at a dead end cubicle job from 2005-2011 for about $30,000 per year. I went self-employed in July 2011 and make between $70,000-$90,000 through blogging, professional pet sitting, hubby's reffing, and our rental home. If you’d like to start your own site (link to my free step-by-step guide), I highly suggest checking out Bluehost (my referral link with a nice discount for you, PLUS a free custom header banner from me!). Please contact me any time at budgetingfunstuff*at*gmail*dot*com with questions or just to brainstorm! I’d love to help!