Making More than My Husband and WE are Loving It!

I was reading She Is The Man Now over at Financially Consumed and thought about the history my husband and I have with our money.  I have made more some years and he has made more some years.  I don’t think either of us ever felt bad about making less.  I know my husband is ecstatic that I make more now that I am self-employed since that means that we are taking home more income now than we ever have before.

Our Income History

When we first got married in 2005,  I made more  than Mr. BFS even though I only had a $26,500 annual salary because he didn’t land a teaching position right away.  But he did find a position as an 8th grade science teacher in 2006 and my $30,000-$35,000 income was much less than his $42,000-$43,000 from 2006-2009.  Then he stepped into a new school district as a librarian in 2009 and added to the gap by making $47,500.  I was and am so happy for him.  He actually likes his job and I love watching our savings grow.

Our Current Income

Now it looks like I am making more again in 2011.  I have brought in more than $5000 a month in June, July, and August.  Overall, my blogging income from January-August 2011 has been $28,000.  I made about $15,000 in my day job this year as well.   My husband’s salary is still around $47,500 plus he is a sports official as a hobby job, which bring in another $2000-$3000 a year.  As long as I make $1500 or more a month from here on out, I will be out-earning Mr. BFS. 

Our Take on Income Differences

Does my husband mind?  Nope.  He loves it.  He brags about it to close family and friends.  For example, his grandparents asked us how we were doing and he started going on and on about me blogging full time and using my marketing degree to start an online advertising business.  He then spouted off what I had banked so far this month and he and his grandpa started talking about savings, lol.  In short, our money is our money and we are just happy to have more of it than before.

Does that mean I’m not proud?  No, I am very happy.  I am glad that I am finally earning more than $35,000 a year.  But not because of my husband’s income.  I was frustrated with myself simply since I knew I could do better but was being too lazy to really try.  Then I found blogging.  It just fit.

On a big side note, please don’t think I am saying we are perfect.  We have issues just like everyone else.  For example, my husband doesn’t care if I make more than him, but he has admitted that if I ever get a doctorate, he would want one too.  So he is competitive when it comes to education, lol, just not cold, hard cash.  icon wink Making More than My Husband and WE are Loving It!

My point of this whole post was to say that my husband and I don’t see any issues at all with a guy staying home with his kids.  We don’t see a problem with a woman staying home with her kids either.  I don’t think it’s about sex.  I think it’s about doing what’s best for you and yours.  Do whatever feels right and works.  That just makes life easier.

What do you think?  Is there anything wrong with a wife out-earning a husband or the other way around?

What My Dysfunctional Family Taught Me about Personal Finance

Sandy at First Gen American has proposed another Coffee Talk.  This is when she presents a topic and as many bloggers as possible jump in on the same day to cover it from their unique point of view.  This month’s topic was “What my dysfunctional _______ taught me about _______.”  Since this is my personal finance blog, I’m taking a direct route to material.  icon smile What My Dysfunctional Family Taught Me about Personal Finance

Most of my family reads this blog once in a while and will probably chime in if I’m way off on something, but this is what I learned about personal finance from my family while growing up:

  • Mom – Take responsibility for your own money.  I remember that our credit union wouldn’t let me open a savings account that wasn’t accessible by my parents unless I had an official identification card.  My mom wanted me to have complete control over my own money and took me to the Department of Motor Vehicles at age 6, waited in that long line with me, and even helped me up on a step stool to have my picture taken.  I opened my own account with my ID in hand soon after.  I still have the picture from that ID in my closet.
  • Dad – Splurging is okay as long as your bases are covered.  Seriously, my dad is all about saving first, but I did learn that having a good time is allowed.  I remember visiting theme parks and seeing movies like The Little Mermaid and Aladdin in the theater.  I also used to talk him into buying me one treat from the gas station anytime I was in the car with him while he was filling up.
  • Grandma – Investments rock.  My grandmother has an odd sixth sense when it comes to the stock market.  She buys stable shares but always seems to know when to sell right before it tanks for a little while.  I remember her and grandpa talking about some utility shares she did really well on when I was itty-bitty.
  • Grandpa – Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke.  My grandpa rarely buys something new unless he is replacing something that doesn’t work anymore.  This seemed to rub off on me when it comes to furniture and cars.  I will use something until it simply doesn’t work for me anymore.
  • Sisters – Put aside money for specific purposes.  My younger sister is 8 years younger than me and the youngest is 13 years younger than me.  There were several times in my teenage life that I meant to get them something but simply didn’t have the money for when I remembered to go and buy it.  It made me feel like a complete loser and I haven’t ever forgotten to budget or save since then.  I never want to be in a situation where I simply don’t have the funds for something I want or need so I live with a detailed budget.
  • Aunts and Uncles – Savings matters.  During the good times and bad times, I was constantly reminded that having some money stashed away is a good thing.

My family may not always get along, but they did very well by me when it came to teaching me how to handle my financial life.

What did you learn about personal finance from your family?

A Splurge May Turn into Lifestyle Inflation

I should have seen this coming.  Remember those DreamFit Sheets I mentioned a little while ago?  The $150 ones that have a 400 thread count?  They were delivered last week.  Now Mr. BFS wants to buy another set and never use the old ones again, lol.  He has officially apologized for ever having any negative thoughts about their purchase at all, hehehe.

My Take on Lifestyle Inflation

Like I said, I should have seen this coming.  This has led me to think about lifestyle inflation.  A certain amount seems completely acceptable to me.  For example, when we went from making less than $30,000 a year after college to more than $75,000 when we both found full-time jobs, living at a higher standard seemed to make sense.  But do I have a cut off?

My gut reaction to $150 sheets was “that’s too dang expensive to buy again” but then I honestly thought “why the heck not?”.  Together we are bringing in more than $85,000 a year even if I start making less with blogging.  We save 30-40% every month.  We usually have at least a few hundred leftover in the budget after we pay our bills and hit all of our savings goals.  In short, we aren’t going nuts, so why is my gut reaction still “no, no , no”?

I just want to avoid developing huge problems.  At the same time, our new sheets are EXTREMELY soft.  It feels pretty good to slide into them at night.

My Attempt to Avoid the Problem

So instead of overthinking this, I have contacted the company we bought the sheets from to see if they’d like to sponsor a review and giveaway.  I emailed them saying thank you for the quick delivery of our amazing sheets.  I then told them about my blog and gave them the important stats.  I linked to another review I have done and asked if they’d like to send over two sets of the 400 thread count queen-sized sheets – one for me to write the review and one for a giveaway.  We’ll see what they say.  icon smile A Splurge May Turn into Lifestyle Inflation

Maybe I should spend more time thinking about using my writing to get free stuff and less about the issues with lifestyle inflation, lol.  But if this review doesn’t come through, I know we’ll eventually be buying another set of sweet sheets.

How do you deal with lifestyle inflation?

Weekly Money Update #33 for 2011

The Saved Quarter Challenge Update

I joined The Saved Quarter Challenge this year and was aiming to save at least $21,000 by the end of 2011, but we hit that goal in mid-June!!! My new goal is to save a cool $42,000 by the end of 2011 instead! That would be a tiny bit more than 50% of our GROSS pay from our two full time jobs (my husband’s and the one I had before I quit in mid-July)!!!

Here’s how I’ve done this week for the Saved Quarter Challenge:

  • Ummm…I made a lot of money, but none of it is technically saved yet…sorry.

I received my last regular paycheck on August 3rd, so my blogging income is not considered savings automatically anymore. I’ll know after the 14th of every month how much of it can be socked away like it was this week. icon smile Weekly Money Update #33 for 2011

The new $42,000 goal is hopefully going to be reached solely through 100% true savings – 401(k), Roth IRA, emergency fund/savings, home and auto maintenance account, extra cash for investments, and blogging income up to August 6, 2011.

Total This Week: $0

We can save what we do because we live off of a little more than my husband’s salary as a school librarian ($38,000 take home pay). That means we save most of what I make blogging from home and what my husband makes from his hobby job of reffing. Reffing usually brings in $2000-$3000 a year and blogging is bringing in $35,000 or more a year (we’ve already hit more than $24,000 for January-July 2011), and I get to keep about two-thirds after taxes.

Total to date: $35,713 guaranteed, $6,287 to go.

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If you are interested in seeing how I went from an 8 million plus Alexa rank and 3 readers to where I am today, you can see My Blogging Checklists, which breaks down everything I do related to blogging. If you want to see how I have started bringing in more than $3000 a month in less than 18 months, you can check out How I Make Money Blogging.

I have also started a new site, http://howimakemoneyblogging.com/, which will cover how I currently make money blogging and my transition to a work-from-home blogger!

THANK YOU ALL FOR BEING THE BEST READERS EVER!!!

Weekly Favorites, Gratitude, and Giveaways #38

My Favorite Posts this Week

I Staff Write…A Lot…

Giveaways

Blog Carnivals

If you are hosting a carnival that includes Budgeting in the Fun Stuff, please email me so I can include it in my roundup. Thanks!

Top 5 Referring Sites to BFS from Last Week:

  1. Free Money Finance
  2. Yakezie
  3. Get Rich Slowly
  4. Squirrelers
  5. Financially Consumed

Feel free to contact me if you have any suggestions. I’d love to add a few more blogs to my regular reading list or at least give a shout-out for great posts or contests.

As always, thanks to all the bloggers that teach me something new every day. Thanks to all my commenters for making this blog the community I want it to be. Thanks to all my lurkers too. icon wink Weekly Favorites, Gratitude, and Giveaways #38

I hope everybody is enjoying this as much as me!

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My Other Sites

I have started a new site, How I Make Money Blogging!
Let me know what you think!

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7 Links Project at BFS

Budgeting in the Fun Stuff was nominated by Wealth Informatics to participate in the 7 links project (thanks Suba!). It’s like a chain letter for bloggers.  I’ll reflect on 7 past posts and introduce those posts to new readers.  icon smile 7 Links Project at BFS

Your most beautiful post

My Husband is Losing His Current Job  I was very emotional when I wrote that post.  My husband, his family, and I had done a ton of work with his school’s library and then he was told he was being displaced by a librarian that got laid off from another district school.  I felt betrayed.  My husband was suffering.  It totally sucked.  But his principal apparently recognized his value too since she ultimately created a general teaching position for him that magically runs the library.  The other librarian is in charge of the research classes.  So they both have a job now.  icon smile 7 Links Project at BFS

Your most popular post

How I Make Money Blogging  Thanks to a contest at Free Money Finance, this post has been seen by a ton of people.  It covers how I built up BFS from scratch and ended up making about $6000 between February 2010 to December 2010.  That post inspired me to start an eBook as well, which in turn inspired Suba to help me create http://howimakemoneyblogging.com.  Ironically, the eBook is on hold right now but I do keep up with the site, lol.

Your most controversial post

I Use a Dryer for My Clothes  This was meant to be funny more than controversial, but people hold strong beliefs about using a dryer.  But the post did lead to the funniest two words ever in the comments “crunchy underwear”.  That still makes me giggle. 

Your most helpful post

5 Tips for Selling on Craigslist  This post has gotten more than 4500 visits, which is awesome!  It also is a great breakdown of how I use Craigslist successfully myself.  The biggest thing to remember is that photos matter!

A post whose success surprised you

Mom’s Pineapple Stuffing  Who knew a simple and yummy recipe would get to be so popular?  A from-the-beginning commenter, MikeS, sent me this awesome recipe for something between a bread pudding and a pineapple upside down cake.  I took pictures of each step while I made it and posted the recipe with pictures on BFS.  A year later, this is still in the top 5 most viewed posts of every week.  Thanks again MikeS!

A post you feel didn’t get the attention it deserved.

Need Money?  Have an Extra Bedroom?  It was one of many posts I enjoyed writing when I think I had about 10 readers a day, lol.  We did rent out our spare bedroom for more than 2 years and made about $500 a month doing it.  Since our mortgage at the time was $740 a month, that was a big chunk right there.  Now that our mortgage is $504 a month, I guess we are kind of silly for turning the spare bedroom into my office,  but I really like my office.  icon smile 7 Links Project at BFS

The post that you are most proud of

A tie between I am Quitting and Know When to Roll with the Punches, Know When to Take Control 

“I Am Quitting” was huge because I finally accomplished one hell of a goal!  In October 2010, blogging full time was a wouldn’t-it-be-nice-if dream.  In July 2011, it snuck up on me and became my full-time reality!!!  Woot!!!

“Know When to Roll with the Punches, Know When to Take Control” was a post I wrote at the end of a very, very long day.  I am very proud of the way I handled myself through all of the stress and even prouder of how I ended the day on a positive note.  Life can be tough, but you do have control over your little piece of the world sometimes.

Nominations

Part of the rule is to nominate 5 more bloggers to continue the 7 links project.  A bunch of bloggers have already participated or have already been nominated, so here are few I am not sure about:

1.  Money Talks
2.  Free Money Finance
3.  Get Rich Slowly
4.  Smart Passive Income
5.  Studenomics

Dividend Yielding Stocks – I Learn Something New Every Day

I really do learn something new every day.  It’s not too hard when it comes to stocks or investing since those subjects usually bore me, but I received a comment on an older post, Passive and Residual Income Defined, that got me interested, and JT from Money Mamba saved the day!

Adi:  It’s true, passive income is the most rewarding by far. I earn only around $250 a month from passive income but I care about this so much more than what I earn from my other sources.

Question about the stocks: So far as I know, the dividend is subtracted from the share price every time it’s paid out. So, even though you get cash paid out, your total profit is zero. So how is it that you see dividends as a source of income?

Me: Adi, I have never heard about the dividends being taken out of the share price…where did you see that?

Adi:  When I still had shares, it was normal (at least here in Europe). Every year when you got the dividend, your share price instantly dropped by that amount. They called this the ex-dividend price.

It makes sense in retrospect, because I should think market dynamics would ensure such a drop anyway. Or do you have a rule in the US that you only get a dividend if you hold the shares for a minimum time? But then that time threshold would be when the price drops.

So, I officially declare myself confused.

That’s when I called in the big guns, JT from Money Mamba.  I knew he was way more into the investment arena than I am, so I asked for him to chime in to clear all of this up once and for all:

JT:  The relationship between share prices and dividends isn’t 100% perfect. If you were to do a company valuation, then a company would technically be worth less after a dividend payout than before. If company X has a value of $100 before paying a $1 dividend, then it would be worth $99 after the dividend, as $1 is removed from the company’s cash on a per-share basis.

Whether or not this is reflected in the markets is case-by-case. In general, stocks that pay the highest dividends usually see the biggest drops after an ex-dividend date. If a company pays a $5 dividend on a $25 stock, then tons of investors are going to pile in before the dividend date and leave after. Thus, the buying and selling creates more volatility, and you’re more likely to see the dividend loss to cash priced in after.

In companies where the yield isn’t as high, the ups and downs with dividends are hardly noticed. Few people pile into a company to grab a .5% dividend payout, as the stock could easily move .5% between the purchase date and the dividend date.

The answer to the question can’t be a “yes” or “no” all the time. The price of stocks are based on supply and demand, and people who buy and sell them do them for different reasons. If a large part of the demand for stock is coming from people who want the one-time dividend, then you’re likely to see the price drop after the dividend comes. If, on the other hand, most of the demand for shares comes from long-term investors, the relationship is not at all 100% correlated.

In short, the big-time dividend stocks that everyone loves (Dividend Aristocrats) don’t see this kind of ex-divided pricing activity. However, the smaller companies that pay big dividend yields will, as will those which pay out HUGE one-time dividends.

Historically, dividend paying companies have been the best investments, and I can’t see that trend changing any time soon. The reality is that one dollar paid out in the form of dividends is $1 that can buy you a larger portion of the company. Meanwhile, $1 in cash on the books of your favorite company is just like having $1 in a savings account. Over the long-term, $1 in a company is going to provide much better returns than that $1 in a savings account.

That’s the short of it, but we can get way more finance-y if you’d like. I hope that makes sense.

Oh, and in the US, dividends are most often paid quarterly, so you would have to risk your money 4 times per year to get in and out for one year’s worth of ex-dividend dates.

In Europe, you need to risk it only once. I suppose this is why you see a lot more ex-dividend volatility in Europe than in the US.

So, yes, share prices do fluctuate based on dividend payouts, but it depends on the company on whether it’s noticeable or not.  Good to know.

Am I the only one who didn’t know that dividends affected share prices?