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Baby Update – One Month to Go!!!

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It’s hard to blog, or really accomplish anything, right now.  I’m in a weird limbo world where I want to get everything ready for our daughter’s arrival, but naps, Facebook, tv, and absolutely any other time waster seems way more attractive.  🙂 Baby Making Update My baby bump has inflated, we’ve finished our hospital birthing classes, we’ve done the hospital tour and pre-registered, and now it’s just weekly doctor appointments and waiting to pop while I keep swallowing acid reducers to stay sane. This little one is developing really well!  All of her measurements are coming in fine.  She’s already around 6 pounds with a month to go, which they think is perfectly healthy and not too big at the same time.  All of my tests have come back fine.  All of my baby-delivering parts are where they need to be and doing what they need to do.  So far, so good! Physically, making a mini-human hasn’t been all bad for me.   Granted, I still wouldn’t be one of those women who say, “I loved being pregnant!”, but all of my friends and family have had it worse.  The Annoying Parts I had the “morning” sickness that first trimester, but … Read more

Adventures in Baby-Making – The Third Trimester So Far

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Hey all y’all!!!  As of today, I’m 33.5 weeks pregnant and our daughter is rocking and rolling!  My baby bump is obvious but I am apparently “carrying well”, so I’m looking good for someone less than 2 months from popping, haha.  She’s still expected to make her way out of me between mid-late June (June 15 is the 40 week mark but first time moms often carry longer).  Yep, Still Creepy When It’s Yours – But Creepy Cool The “Alien” style way she likes to stretch and looks to want to burst out right above my belly button is right on cue and just as creepy as it sounds.  Oddly enough, that doesn’t hurt as much as when she pushes super low and crushes my bowels or whatever other important things are down there…maybe the “Alien” writers couldn’t accurately show that level of pain and went for the easy burst out scene… Also creepy is how my body doesn’t wind down as it loses energy.  It just stops.  One minute, I’ll be chugging right along cutting a tomato for fajita toppings.  Then I just have to stop and sit down for 10 minutes like a switch was flipped in my … Read more

Planning for My Self-Employed Maternity “Leave”

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I love being self-employed.  I think I will enjoy retirement even more in the future, but if I’m not financially independent, self-employment is the only craved income path for me.  My Pros of Self-Employment I enjoy the flexibility, the control, and the income diversification that comes along with having 150+ clients in pet sitting and a few streams we have for making cash online.  When I worked for the car dealership software company from 2005-2011, they could have fired me at any moment and I would have had my personal main income stream cut off all at once.  Being self-employed has, strangely enough, made me feel more financially stable overall. My Cons of Self-Employment BUT, there are some WHOPPING downsides.  I truly miss the 100% matching up to 6% in my old 401k.  I also miss being able to take a vacation without coming back to a pile of things to do since everyone in my old department could cover each other’s work.  And, I definitely don’t have any paid maternity leave options now (I’m not sure if my old job had them or not because I left WAYYYYY before we ever thought we even wanted to have kids). Planning … Read more

Six Good Things

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Jana Says and Surviving and Thriving have started a trend with posts about the half dozen good things happening in their lives.  Since complaining is easy, and I do a lot of it, I loved the idea of just being thankful.  Here are my six specific good things right now… 1. Our daughter is kicking me now! I don’t have to use the fetal heart monitor every night to assure myself that our baby is chugging along.  Now I just have to lean over while sitting down.  That move squishes her apartment space and pisses her off, so I get a few solid kicks telling me to sit the hell up.  So not only is she kicking, but she is spunky like her momma.  I love it. 2. Upcoming Trips Before I hit the waddling stage of pregnancy, I’m fitting in a few last trips without my own kid in tow.  That means getting to work out the details for a quick weekend adventure with my bestie, Dee, and my adopted niece via Airbnb. Dee and I have used Airbnb twice already and it has been fantastic.  Once in 2016 to stay in a big RV at Canyon Lake so … Read more

Expensive Week – Now Brainstorming Money-Making Ideas with a Baby…

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It’s been an expensive week.  I’m officially brainstorming ideas for a baby-related side hustle. We Bought a Car Hubby’s 2007 Prius decided that anti-lock brakes weren’t necessary for its existence last Tuesday.  While technically true, isn’t helpful for a couple having a baby.  It made it a nice 178,000 miles and could go further with a $2100 repair.  But I’ll leave that to the next lucky owner. We waived the white flag and bought hubby a new 2017 Prius for $28,250 drive-out at 0% interest for 72 months last Wednesday.  Not a bad deal, but not a world-ending, amazing one either.  All of that happened within 24 hours though, so I’m not going to kick myself.  At least I’m efficient, LOL. Genetics Testing is Trying to Give Me a Heart Attack But then, a few hours later into Wednesday evening, I login to Liberty Healthshare and see that Progenity, the genetic blood testing company that our doctor had us use for me in December, had submitted around $25,000 in charges.  Liberty recalculated that down to around $5000 but said it wasn’t eligible. I freaked the frick out.  Not only because a blood test could possibly run us $5000 but also … Read more

Please Don’t Be Fully Financially Dependent on Someone Else

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For anybody new, I’m 20-21 weeks pregnant as of right now.  I’ve been blogging about personal finance, budgeting, and my life in general here since February 2010.  And I just joined a few mommy Facebook groups in the last few weeks to help myself prepare for what is coming and to start building support networks since only a couple of our friends have kids.  Main New Mommy Group Topics Here is what I’ve figured out by just looking around the mommy group posts every day: 1.  Sleep is HUGE.  Sleep training versus just holding them versus whatever is like THE TOPIC, always.  I’m leaning towards a steady routine so they get used to a process, but obviously, there are dozens of ways to handle sleep time and you do whatever works for you, boo boo. 2.  Lack of partner support is sadly also one of the top topics.  Like depressingly prevalent.  For the record, I’m with anybody who says that partners don’t babysit their own kids while a mom takes a break.  It’s called taking care of your kid.  I get that we pregnant women have the breast milk and whatnot.  But that doesn’t mean the entire raising process of … Read more

Freebies and Hand-Me-Downs for the Win!

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I’ve always known that babies grow quickly, so buying everything brand new was not going to be my path.  But I also know that many of my friends and family want to help out.  And listing what I still need will let me know what I’m missing when I’m about to pop, hence creating an Amazon registry I am editing as we go… Spending Restrictions Until May Since I know baby showers and baby-to-be gifts are coming in the next 3-4 months, I also have put myself on a very restricted nesting budget.  I will only allow myself to spend $100 on anything baby-related until at least mid-May 2018. I don’t usually enjoy shopping but I do like being prepared.  So restricting my nesting spending is actually harder than anticipated.  BUT, it hasn’t stopped me from accepting freebies and hand-me-downs from friends, family, and neighbors!!!  And that is a WORLD OF HAPPY!!! Hand-Me-Downs are Amazing! Thanks to the generosity of our parents and family, our friends, our pet sitting team member with a 3 year old, and now neighbors I’ve met through Nextdoor.com and Facebook, I am checking off the baby list pretty handily!  And there has been the added … Read more