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I’m Still Here

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Yeppers, I am still here.  My most recent miscarriage, has made me crampy and tired, but I’m physically fine.  Medically, my two follow-up blood tests have shown my HCG falling like it should and I have another blood test this week. As usual, I can’t easily write informational posts when I’m sad.  It’s like my give-a-shit turns off.  But I can vent. My Current Mood In this specific case, I seem to have enough energy to keep up with pet sitting, my online business emails, and to stay in touch with friends and family.  Then I just want to eat donuts and nap. And I have been eating ALOT of donuts and taking MANY naps.  Yeah, I know the donuts are working against me, but if you mention that below, I will most likely tell you to fuck off.  That’s the sort of mood I’ve been in. I don’t have the classic 5 stages of grief.  I generally just vacillate between angry and sad/depression for a while and then bounce right to moving on. I am sincerely happy that pet sitting is awesome even when I’m not.  I get to pet, play, and talk to all the dogs and cats like usual, and … Read more

Another, Scarier Miscarriage But I’m Okay

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For anyone following along, Len and I have been trying to get me impregnated for a couple of years. Our Last Try We went from cool-if-it-happens to we’re-going-to-actively-make-this-happen around October 2016.  I bought some ovulation sticks, peed on a dozen of them over as many days, had sex when they indicated we should, and we got me pregnant in November 2016. Well, that ended in a miscarriage in January 2017 with a blighted ovum (dumbass scary name for just no baby in the basket). This Attempt at Baby Making We waited a couple of months and I started peeing on ovulation sticks again in March 2017, which led to me getting pregnant again.  I was worried about another miscarriage and had been making them give me blood tests as soon as I peed positive. Up to the beginning of last week, I had taken 3 blood tests that had led to Progesterone suppositories but generally good signs, so they were going to wait two weeks to give me my first ultrasound.  I requested a fourth blood test because I wanted to see higher numbers and that the suppositories were really working (no one wants to keep using vaginal suppositories if they … Read more

I’m Having a Miscarriage

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Having a Miscarriage | Feelings | Dealing with Loss | Medical Miscarriage

Yeah, it punched us in the gut too. What is a Blighted Ovum? My medical diagnosis is a “blighted ovum”.  That sounds creepy, but it means that our sperm and egg met, decided to get serious, but broke it off before they moved in together. By the time my body created a gestational sac and went full-on pregnancy mode, no embryo or anything was around to move in.  But my body was already so far into the process that it just kept going, flooding me with pregnancy hormones and symptoms for another 5 weeks.  Then it realized that something wasn’t quite right…though it could take another 3 weeks to figure out exactly what needs to be done, so I’m having a D&C (uterine spring cleaning) done on Monday. In short, Peanut decided not to hop onto this crazy train quite yet. Miscarriages Suck, Duh I’m crampy and coping.  Len is handling it more privately but making sure to be there for me every step of the way.  We’re sad and angry and sad and okay.  It simply sucks.  All loss sucks.  Can’t go much deeper than that. Oh, and it’s been astounding learning about how many women I know in person and online … Read more

I’M PREGNANT!!!!!

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A big big announcement today- I'm pregnant! We are thrilled and have been looking forward to being able to share the news.

WARNING: I’m a sharer who will be talking about trying to get pregnant and my pregnancy. If you didn’t know, all of that stuff includes subjects that some people may find too personal or think it’s “too much information” (TMI). If you are that sort of person, my blog is probably not for you but specifically, these posts aren’t for you. Thanks! I Was Going to Get Pregnant, Gosh Darn It! I’m 33 years old (turning 34 this week), and I was using the Nuvaring for birth control for more than a decade. I stopped in November 2015.  My body returned to normal, baby-making processes in early 2016…and we tried…and we tried…and then my best friend got pregnant… Then I became a competitive beyatch and started paying attention to the awesome suggestions you all made in previous “I’m trying” posts.  I wanted to get pregnant and I was willing to pee in tiny cups. Tried Something New – Ovulation Testing Strips My hubby and I had been just having unprotected sex a few times a week hoping we’d get lucky (hehehehe, get it?). Thanks to Kasey, a commenter in my second official update, I decided to go scientific. I ordered this 50 … Read more

Baby Budget Woes of a New Dad

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Kids are expensive! Budgeting for a new baby can be tricky, use this list to help you plan it before you need the cash.

This following post was written by my friend, Joshua Crum, father of three. He’s also the Lead Credit Repair Expert (to my knowledge, he’s still a team of one, lol) of http://www.RebuildRepairCredit.com/.  In short, he helps people get rid of zombie debt, figure out how to manage their current finances, and get them on the right path.  I met Josh at FinCon16 and he’s been a real friend for these last couple of months – this is an in-real-life guy actually doing this stuff…not just one of those spam companies we all delete immediately.  🙂 First, becoming a new parent is stressful enough.  One of the biggest issues is budgeting as a new dad or parent. There is so much new stuff to consider. It’s overwhelming at first!  So, I strive to make things easier and more predictable. Here is where I simplify the chaos as much as possible. Food Costs First comes food, one major expense that adds up very fast. Most new parents do not count on an increasing food budget. If you are lucky, at first mom can breastfeed. Not only is this great for baby but for your family’s budget as well. It literally saves gobs … Read more

“Budgeting in the Baby Stuff” – Third Official Update

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The road to having a baby is more than just pregnancy, there are a lot of details to plan for!

WARNING: I’m a sharer who will be talking about trying to get pregnant, and hopefully in the future, about pregnancy itself. If you didn’t know, all of that stuff includes subjects that some people may find too personal or think it’s “too much information” (TMI). If you are that sort of person, my blog is probably not for you but specifically, these posts aren’t for you. Thanks! Nope, still not pregnant. I’m 33 years old (turning 34 in a month), and I was using the Nuvaring for birth control for more than a decade. I stopped in November 2015.  My body returned to normal, baby-making processes in early 2016. I still have no idea when or if I will get pregnant.  I’m not too worried about it, though now that my best friend is pregnant, I am taking it more seriously.  I’m hoping it happens for us soon so our kids can grow up together.  But we’ll have a good life either way. Our Process So Far We’ve been trying the “classic” way.  And because of a couple of commenters during my first update, I started paying attention to my cervical mucus (which should have been called ‘gina juice, hehehe).  That didn’t … Read more

“Budgeting in the Baby Stuff” – Second Official Update

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WARNING: I’m an over-sharer who will be talking about trying to get pregnant once in a while here on BFS, and hopefully in the future, about pregnancy itself and a baby and a kid and so on. If you didn’t know, all of that stuff includes subjects that some people may find too personal or think it’s “too much information” (TMI). If you are that sort of person, my blog is probably not for you but specifically, these posts aren’t for you. Move on or be offended – totally up to you.  Thanks! I’ve been getting more emails and a few comments asking for baby-making updates.  I think it’s pretty cool any of you would really be interested. That said, here’s the second official “Budgeting in the Baby Stuff” update! Nope, still not pregnant. I’m 33 years old. I was using the Nuvaring for birth control for more than a decade. I stopped in November 2015. It seems to be completely out of my system now – girl stuff is happening with gusto (*sarcastic yay*).  I am happy that my system seems 100% back to normal again. I still have no idea when or if I will get pregnant. I’m still not worried … Read more