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The Gender Reveal!!!

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Hope your holidays were awesome!!!  I’ve been feeling truly loved and lucky.  I think these past few weeks have been some of the best of my life.  I had a great trip overnight with my family and had a really good time with my parents, one of my uncles, and one of my sisters and her family.  I’m very proud of my other sister who was hard at work at her first job.  We then had an entire relaxed day with my inlaws – eating and talking and hanging out with his cousin’s 4 month old.  We were completely spoiled by both sides of our family and I feel extremely lucky to have the support network we do with this kid on the way!!! We also attended our annual 4 day board gaming convention the weekend after Christmas.  So we were able to ring in the new year with laughter, board games, and a surprise birthday dinner for me thanks to friends.  This week is filled with more birthday fun with both of our families, so woot! And to top it all off, between Christmas and New Year’s, we finally received the results from those blood samples they took from … Read more

Pregnancy Update – Peanut at 14 Weeks and Need Baby Item Suggestions!

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I’m finally not puking all of the time!!!  Yay!!!  Woot for being one of the lucky ones that get a reprieve for a little bit!!!  14 Week Ultrasound We went in for another quick ultrasound late last week and Peanut is developing well!  We could hear the heartbeat at 160 beats per minute (right on track) AND my little parasite was just squirming and kicking away just like last time.  I’m slightly worried for the future of my internal organs since I can’t feel this crap with a 3-4 inch fetus but I’m guessing that will change greatly as it grows exponentially…but yay!!!  Healthy thus far and doing all the normal baby things! Waiting for the Results of Genetic Testing I’m turning 35 this month, so they took some of my blood to do genetic testing (I called them my “old momma tests” which got laughs since they have a bunch of 40+ year old new moms too but they are highly suggested).  We should know Peanut’s gender when the tests are all done and reported, but thanks to the holidays, that could be as late as the second week of January.  Doesn’t change much for me either way, but … Read more

My Recent Bursts of Energy

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So, I’m 13 weeks pregnant and am finally having a couple of days in a row where I’m nauseous occasionally but haven’t been throwing up.  Woot!  Did I write several posts so I could finally not feel behind on the blogging?  Nope.  Did I try to grow the pet sitting business in some miraculous way?  Nope.  Did I find a path to world peace or do the million errands pregnant people need to do before a baby comes wailing out of me?  Nope. I picked up my little downstairs domain of the house, assembled and decorated our Christmas tree, put up a few other decorations, sent out Christmas cards for the first time in years, cleaned the kitchen, and vacuumed the living room throw rug.  Oh, and I Amazon shopped for Christmas gifts (and am still not done) even though I am usually finished with Christmas shopping by Halloween.  Lastly I started binging on shows I DVR’d. Did any of that really HAVE to happen?  Nope.  Well, maybe the Christmas shopping (and I’m still not done). I’m not beating myself up about it though.  I’m scheduling in real time during the week to work on our businesses.  And when I … Read more

Morning Sickness is a Sick Lie

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“Morning sickness” implies you are sick in the mornings.  Guess what?  Every pregnancy is different, but the vast majority of women who get “morning sickness” are NOT just blessed with the morning pukes.  It’s nausea, very much like motion sickness on steroids, which comes and goes ALL day.  Then, depending on your own personal hell pregnancy, you projectile vomit randomly as well.  For me, it’s being physically ill generally at night with some mornings thrown in for fun.  And nausea off and on the entire time I’m awake.  And get this, I’m actually a really lucky pregnant lady.  My friend, Dee, was sick even worse than me for a vast majority of her pregnancy.  And my sister had the kind that starts scaring everybody because you can’t keep enough food down to actually survive without the constant drip of a portable medical pump full of anti-nausea meds.  So yeah, I’m a lucky one and yet, I want to find the person who coined “morning sickness” and punch them solidly in their own stomach after they finish a large meal. Pregnancy Sickness and Personal Finance What does this have to do with personal finance?  I was going to say, “not a … Read more

Thinking about Getting Knocked Up Again

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This has been a crappy year for our procreation plans.  I got pregnant in late November 2016, had a blighted ovum miscarriage in mid-January 2017, got pregnant again in mid-March 2017, and had an ectopic pregnancy miscarriage in late April 2017.  That one took nearly a month for my system to physically reset, and I was told to wait at least two menstrual cycles before trying again.  I was also warned that I would now have an increased chance for ectopic pregnancies with any future attempts.  Wanting to Try Again Despite the scare factor the tubal pregnancy slapped me with, my husband and I are seriously contemplating whether we should start trying again in the next month or so (after my second cycle).  I’ve slammed through all of my stages of grief (sad, angry, depressed, contemplative, snarky, and acceptance).  I also used the time to find a new OB-GYN since the staff of my last doctor treated me like a faceless number.  We meet my new doctor this Thursday and I’ll make sure we are good to go again physically.  If so, we then need to figure out if we want to try again soon or wait a few more … Read more

Miscarriage #2 is a Wrap…and a Rough Income Report for May 2017

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I actually sent those words – “Miscarriage #2 is a wrap!” – as a text to my mom and then a couple of my friends yesterday.  I know it might come off as glib, but sometimes glib seems right to me.  Miscarriage Synopsis My blood test Tuesday came back as HCG 0, which means my body is back to its starting position.  My tube didn’t explode, so no surgery!  Yay!  I’m no longer bleeding or cramping, so double yay!  All emotions still come way easier and faster than normal for me, so that’s slightly VERY annoying.  Stupid emotions.  Screw emotions. Moving onto happier things… Pet Sitting for the Win! Pet sitting has been truly helpful.  I thought that forcing myself to do some jobs would make me resent the work, but animals really are the best company when you feel like poop.  Between our cats and all the clients’ pets, I was generally surrounded by furry hugs most of every day.  Picking up poop and scooping cat litter is not more fun when you are grieving or angry, but it’s not less fun either…it’s like a constant that makes everything feel a little normal.  When you are going through life’s … Read more

I’m Still Here

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Yeppers, I am still here.  My most recent miscarriage, has made me crampy and tired, but I’m physically fine.  Medically, my two follow-up blood tests have shown my HCG falling like it should and I have another blood test this week. As usual, I can’t easily write informational posts when I’m sad.  It’s like my give-a-shit turns off.  But I can vent. My Current Mood In this specific case, I seem to have enough energy to keep up with pet sitting, my online business emails, and to stay in touch with friends and family.  Then I just want to eat donuts and nap. And I have been eating ALOT of donuts and taking MANY naps.  Yeah, I know the donuts are working against me, but if you mention that below, I will most likely tell you to fuck off.  That’s the sort of mood I’ve been in. I don’t have the classic 5 stages of grief.  I generally just vacillate between angry and sad/depression for a while and then bounce right to moving on. I am sincerely happy that pet sitting is awesome even when I’m not.  I get to pet, play, and talk to all the dogs and cats like usual, and … Read more