It’s been nearly a year since I updated all of you about being in Big Brothers Big Sisters (BBBS). Honestly, it just became part of my life and I forgot that I stopped talking about it here, LOL.
My Little Bro
That’s my Little Bro watching his favorite animal ever, a sea lion, jumping out of the water. This was his first ever trip to the zoo! Yay!!! I got lucky to get this shot, lol. And yes, his mom gave me permission to use it or any of the photos I take. :-)
My Little Bro and I were matched up in September 2013 and started hanging out in October 2013. He was 10 years old when we were matched up and is 11 now. I am 20 years older than him, and I love that since it makes remembering his age way easier. Hahaha.
Overall, he is as quiet as I am loud. He is as black as I am white. He is my height already (5’2″) and will be at least 6 feet tall based on his ever-growing feet. So we make a very odd-looking couple when we are out and about, but that suits both of us just fine. We do make jokes about “white” stuff and “black” stuff once in a while, but it never seems to be a concentrated point. I did have to inform him on one of our initial hang outs that “some white people like Brisk iced tea too.” That makes me laugh to this day.
Most recently, with me dying my hair a rainbow of color, I thought I’d finally “break” him and he’d get embarrassed. Nope. He didn’t say anything to me about it but smile. Then he told my mom that I had cool, new hair. He does that a lot – won’t say much to me about something and then tell his mom all about it, so I hear nice stuff second hand. I cannot believe I was matched with someone so shy, or that it works so well for both of us, LOL.
When we were matched, Little Bro was failing most of his classes, was repeating 4th grade, and was getting in trouble by acting out nearly daily in school by going under tables or just walking out of class. His parents were also getting divorced (yeah, I made the connection too).
He has now brought his grades up to B’s and C’s, is in 5th grade for the first time, didn’t act out at school all of last year, and even joined the school’s football team. He enjoys math and science the most, has fast feet in football, and is just now getting comfortable enough at school to start being a slight class clown, which we are working on reeling in just a bit. I am so proud of him and hope he really hunkers down to use his math and science smarts.
He’s helped me a lot in the last year too. I understand kids a little better. I’ve also learned that he pays attention to my actions just as much as my words. It helps that I act the way I suggest and am friendly to nearly everyone. He sees that and repeats it. Not as much as small children do, but I have noticed it pretty frequently. That makes me want to be a better person, especially around him.
I watch how I word things a little more often, and more importantly, I open doors for others and give more smiles and compliments. I need him to see that the whole world isn’t against him. I also make sure to stick to my word- I pick him up every week as we plan and we do what we agreed to do unless the weather forces us to change plans.
Honestly, I spend more than necessary on our weekly get-togethers. BBBS suggests doing free and cheap activities. They never encourage us to spend much at all. I understand. I ignore it sometimes, but I understand.
Little Bro and I both love all sorts of food. He also hadn’t been to places like the zoo or the botanical gardens, so I do drive him all over occasionally. For the most part, we stick close to our homes though.
A basic hang out day is picking him up after school around 4pm, we eat somewhere, we hang out somewhere like a billiard’s hall or the $2 discount theater, we grab dessert from a grocery store or snow cone stand, and I take him home around 7pm.
In our first year:
- We hung out 36 times.
- I drove about 950 miles altogether.
- I spent a grand total of $495.
I consider this a STEAL. Oh, and the money spent on Little Bro specifically is a tax write off and so is the mileage. So honestly, it’ll most likely end up costing less than $300 after the actual deductions.
You Should Sign Up
There are way more Littles than Bigs – they need your help. BBBS only asks for you to see each other at least twice a month. The application process is thorough but not extremely time consuming. You don’t have to spend much at all after that though. Just a weekly or biweekly hang out and email your BBBS rep once a month with what you did and for how many hours (that’s how they keep their grants).
The majority of the $495 that I spent in a year was on eating out and billiards, so you could just make food or find a cheaper hobby together.
You will be changing a kid’s life. They will change yours. It is worth the time, money, and there isn’t much driving unless you want to go places all around town like me. This is a good deed that takes less than 3 hours a week at most and can help you and a kid at the same time. I highly suggest it.
Have you ever been a Big or Little? Thought about it?
Please keep in mind that I am a professional pet sitter, an animal rescue foster mom, and an animal lover in general, BUT I am not a vet or anybody in authority over stray animals. So take this post as intended, a suggested to-do list from one sucker to another.
I spent the weekend living away from home since I was hired for overnight pet sitting. Normally, that wouldn’t have annoyed anyone, but this time I took in a stray dog the day before I left. My husband is a bit frazzled, my roommate and friend, Mandy, is pretty much co-parenting with me, and I have learned a bunch about what to do when you find a stray dog…
How I Ended Up with a Stray
Last Thursday, I drove the 5 miles to our old neighborhood to pick up the monthly rent for our rental home. While I was there, a very frazzled older woman was going door to door with her neighbor’s help. She was carrying around a stray dog, a sweet-tempermented Shih Tzu that she had found in the middle of the street about a half hour before. She was nearly crying because both she and her neighbor own large dogs that don’t play well with others – they didn’t know what they were going to do with this little boy.
I asked her, “IF I take this little guy home and give him a place to sleep and eat, would you promise to put up flyers all over this neighborhood and do everything possible to find his real owners?” She said that she would, and looked more relieved than I could describe. Her neighbor promised to help too. I took the dog. Yeah, I’m a pushover.
Steps to Take When You Find a Stray Dog
1. Take care of the immediate problems before you bring the dog into your home. In our case, Toby (trying that name out right now, although “Crazy Dog” seems to be the one sticking…), was thirsty and infested with fleas. I hate fleas. He got little quantities of water at a time until he seemed good to go. Then I gave him the bath in Dawn that I have mentioned before, but he was too matted for it to do much good. So I used $45 of my fun money for the month and took him to the awesome groomers that I had used for my fur babies. They take care of all sorts, so a stray with fleas was an easy one for them. In a few hours, I picked up a flea-free, shaved, nail-clipped, adorable Shih Tzu that was about 2 pounds lighter from when I dropped him off.
This was Toby before I took him to be groomed.
This was Toby when I picked him up 3-4 hours later. TOTALLY WORTH $45!
2. While I was waiting for the groomers to call for pick up, I listed him everywhere I could think of online. The neighbor in the other neighborhood did the same. I ended up with him being listed as FOUND on the Houston SPCA website, Petfinder’s Facebook page, Craigslist, Nextdoor.com in both neighborhoods and surrounding areas, and Texas Lost Pets. Other rescues picked his info up from there and I had 3 calls by Friday evening about this little guy. Sadly, none of them were actually his owners. Shih Tzu’s tend to look a lot alike…
3. We went directly from the groomers to my old vet on the way home. I picked him up a $10 Capstar, a pill for him to take to kill any remaining fleas just in case. I also had him scanned for a microchip. No microchip. He’s an un-neutered male with no identifying microchip, collar, or tattoo.
4. For the last 3 days, my husband and friend/roommate have been taking care of the little guy while I’m pet sitting out of town. I’ve been answering a couple of calls and emails from owners who lost their little guys recently, but he isn’t the one that they are looking for. One lady sent me a picture and they looked nearly identical, but this one isn’t neutered and hers was…and hers has a microchip. Good luck, Joan!
5. I called SMART Rescue, the animal rescue that I foster for when I am home for more than a few weeks at a time. This little boy is obviously a very young adult, maybe 1.5-2 years old, and his super high energy level just won’t fit into our household permanently. That said, I asked SMART if they could take on another little one if I was willing to foster him until he gets adopted. They agreed and he is now their nearly-adoptable dog. We have an appointment on Wednesday to get him a full evaluation, neutered, micro-chipped, and we’ll be picking up heartworm and flea preventatives for the next month. I didn’t have the remaining fun money to tackle all of that in less than a week, and I didn’t want to hit our emergency fund for a pup that I rather not adopt for life. Honestly, rescues are life savers for pets and humans alike.
Based on the fact that he is adorable, sweet, and mostly house trained, I think that he will be adopted out in less than 2-3 weeks. We’ll see. I have my fingers crossed since I know everyone I live with is definitely thinking the sooner, the better since this little guy wants every speck of attention that you can possibly give him every moment of every day. He is a purse dog…he thinks he should be with you all of the time. And since he is just a 14 pound dog, he really was bred that way.
Have you ever rescued a stray? How did you handle it?
For anyone following along with my hair saga, my last update was early this month. I had switched from Manic Panic Ultra Violet Semi-Permanent to N’rage Cobalt Blue Demi-Permanent on September 1st. Manic Panic had lasted strong for 3-4 days, and lasted in total for exactly 2 weeks and 3 main washes.
Love at first sight. :-)
N’rage – Less Than 2 Weeks
N’rage lasted from September 1st through September 11th pretty well, and it wasn’t completely gone. But then I got my hair cut/updated on September 10th to look spiffy at FinCon14, so that definitely stripped a lot out. It was stronger than Manic Panic, but it wouldn’t have lasted much more than 5-6 regular washes with me. Keep in mind, I hadn’t been using sulfate-free shampoo or anything special.
This only lasted 11 days with me…
Ion Color Brilliance Brights Semi-Permanent – Sky Blue
I’ve moved back to the semi-permanent arena, lol. I’m now using Ion Brights Semi-Permanent in Sky Blue. I am loving this shade of blue! I also splurged on $6 sulfate-free shampoo and have washed my hair once so far without it looking nearly as faded as the other two did in one wash. So yay for maintenance shampoo, lol! Without further ado, here is how my hair will hopefully look for at least the next week:
Can’t decide whether I like this one even more than the purple or not! No worries though…I have other colors to try too!
Since the Ion Brights variety is cheaper than Manic Panic and N’rage ($5 versus $9-$13), and they were having a buy-two-get-$1-off sale, I decided to take a chance and bought four colors at once. This is Sky Blue. I will also be trying Aquamarine, Magenta, and Fuschia. Thanks to my super short hair, it only takes one tube to cover it all. If you have more hair than me at all though, I would suggest buying two tubes for Ion or two containers of Manic Panic. Or, just streak your hair instead of covering it all.
I’ve had loud-colored hair for about a month now, and I can honestly say that I’m loving it. My pillow case may never be the same again, but it’s a small price to pay for the fun factor of this experiment so far. Financially, I’ve spent about $40 in the last month on dyes, my new shampoo, and 12 shower caps. But I still have three of those dyes left to try, so this should take me on for at least another month or two. In my world, that’s 3 continuous months of entertainment for $40…what a steal! Hahaha!
And, an extra benefit, I should be very easy to locate at FinCon this year!
Did I leave anything out? What do you think of my colors so far?
Two weeks ago, I dyed my hair Manic Panic Ultra Violet. You may remember this picture:
Love at first sight. :-)
Manic Panic Ultra Violet Review
I loved my purple hair, but Manic Panic is truly a temporary dye. My friends slathered my hair up, used a hot blow dryer on it, covered my head with a plastic bag for 30 minutes, and then I rinsed it out until the water ran nearly clear. Then they did it again because they noticed some missed spots. In the end, it took 2.5 hours to get me purple-headed.
I loved the color but Manic Panic fades fast like it was designed to do. I have a blessed scalp and usually only need to wash my hair every 3 days. But I wanted to hold on to the color longer, so I waited nearly 6 full days before putting the shower cap aside and washing it like normal. It had already faded quite a bit in that 6 days. After the first wash, it was sporadically faded purple, and after the second wash it was nearly gone. The third wash exactly 2 weeks later pretty much finished the job. I was back to nearly my natural hair color, just slightly darker in the blonde areas.
So, Manic Panic is an awesome temporary dye. If you just want a color to last a couple of weeks or less, that is the dye for you. I may play around with it again…
Now Trying Nrage Cobalt Blue
But, I wasn’t in the mood for being a red-head again quite yet. My friends volunteered to help me out once again, and this time we selected a demi-permanent instead of a semi-permanent…that means it is supposed to last 2-3 times longer. Welcome to N’rage Cobalt Blue.
My friends followed nearly the same routine as last time except for using a comb and leaving it to set for a full hour. They slathered me up, combed it through, blew heat on it, put a shower cap on me for a little more than an hour (we watched a new episode of Doctor Who), and then I rinsed it out until the water ran nearly clear once again. Here is my new look!
I will admit that I didn’t adore it as much as purple immediately. But now that I’ve had it for a day, I am LOVING it too!!!
I am hoping that this color holds on longer than the last. Specifically, I need it to stay strong for at least 3 weeks. the Financial Blogger Conference is about 2 weeks from now and I want it to last through that whole week of fun too. If it’s faded at all before I leave, we may hit it again or even streak it with something else like teal or hot pink…we’ll see…
What do you think? Did you prefer the purple or the blue so far?
Last night was a bit tense. It’s not everyday that a fugitive chooses to hunker down in your neighborhood while surrounded by police and helicopters…
The Fugitive Situation
A man, now being identified but I won’t give him the benefit of having his name on my site, shot 7 people in a neighborhood near ours. One of his victims warned the police where he was heading next, and they stationed officers on that street since they didn’t have an exact address. Minutes later, he drove up, saw the cops, and fled. He was spotted by a helicopter while driving away. He drove into our neighborhood while running from the police, and he was soon cornered with his broken car in the cul-de-sac behind my street.
My roommate heard about it nearly immediately after the chase started since he’s an EMT in our area. He called to warn us to lock up the house and be ready in case the guy decided to make a run for it. I turned on our television to see what was being reported. At the time, they thought the guy was going door to door in our neighborhood looking for more victims or an escape route. But the helicopter feed showed him hunkered down in his boxed in car.
I recognized one of the homes in the news feed nearly immediately and called the owner. I pet sit for her when she has long work shifts, so I knew that she was at home and probably scared. She literally answered with “What the heck is going on?!”. I gave her a quick summary, told her to stay inside, and she got off the phone to go take care of her pups. I texted her the feed and any updates we could get over the next hour or so. She ended up coming to my home towards the end of the 3-4 hour stand off. We all kept watching the live helicopter footage via an online feed on ABC.
The End Results
During the stand off, the man apparently threatened suicide several times and had to be talked into surrendering. I am sure that I wasn’t the only one that was wondering how much he really had to live for at that point, but I am glad that it ended without any further bloodshed…if only since it meant that my neighbor was allowed to return to her home and take care of her dogs. That wouldn’t have happened for a long time if he had been killed.
Overall, last night was weird – the excitement of something new and the sadness once we learned what really happened. It’s a reminder that crazy can just fall into your lap. Life isn’t completely controllable. I try not to forget that, but events like these are just obvious examples. Take care of yourselves and those you love. Cherish the good moments. Aim for happy when you can.
Mr. BFS and I were craving Chinese last night, but our favorite place is closed on Sundays. So we called our 2nd favorite and ordered our norm – General Tso’s Chicken and Chicken and Broccoli for pickup. And now, I doubt I will go back.
Picking Up the Order
This part wasn’t so bad. I walked in, waited for the person in front of me to finish paying, and asked for my order. I handed them my credit card to pay and saw him bring out one of those old, mechanical, credit card copy machines. He explained that the normal machine was down. I didn’t mind, but took back my credit card, and handed him the last of my cash. That covered our meal and a nice tip even though I was picking up my own order.
The Main Issues
When I drove back home and handed over the food, Mr. BFS had his General Tso’s Chicken, but I had Beef and Broccoli. I really do not enjoy their beef – it’s spongy. So I called at 5:50pm and explained that I received Beef and Broccoli instead of chicken like I ordered. I then asked if they could just make a note so I could order it for free a different day since I did not want to drive back out again.
No, they wouldn’t make a note. I had to drive back out to pick up the correct order. So, my first question:
Why didn’t they offer to deliver my corrected order?
I didn’t think about this until later, but that would have been the appropriate way to handle this.
So I waited the time they quoted and drove back over. It’s now 6:15pm. The woman in front of me pays by credit, so that process with the old card copier takes 7 minutes. It’s now 6:22pm. Then I get to the counter and ask for my corrected order. The guy acts surprised that there was a wrong order, but I handed him back the Beef and Broccoli minus the few bites I took to make sure that I couldn’t just suck it up and eat it.
He sends his younger coworker to the back to have my corrected order made. What?! I had called 30 minutes earlier!
I ask the younger guy why my order wasn’t remade when I called 30 minutes ago and he says that he wasn’t working the phones. So I look to the older man, and he just gives me a blank stare. No explanation and no apology. So I wait for my new order and finally make it out of the place by 6:40pm. Still no apologies.
I seriously wanted to ask for my earlier tip back. These shenanigans make me an hour later than I wanted to be to pet sitting. Luckily, Pendek and Zim, my current awesome pet sitting pup and kitty, are fine when I get there. No accidents.
Not Going Back
Now I don’t want to go back for two reasons:
2. It happened 2 visits ago too! My friend and I were eating in the restaurant and I ordered Mongolian Chicken with steamed rice. I received Mongolian Beef with fried rice. First I noticed the rice, and they brought out steamed. Then I noticed it was beef, and they asked if it would be okay. I tried to eat it, but the beef was spongy as usual and the Mongolian seasoning made it worse. So I asked for Chicken and Broccoli instead. I blew off this experience since I did end up happy, but along with yesterday, I know that this Chinese place doesn’t care enough to read what they write down or to follow through well when they make mistakes.
I’m a little sad because their seasonings and sauces are good, plus they are much closer than our favorite place. But they cost 50% more and their customer service stinks. So, their loss.
Do you have any bad customer service experiences to share? Come on, vent away!
This past weekend went from “having fun” to “ACK! WHAT THE HECK?!” in a split second. Our old dog, Miss Doxie, decided to play Superman this past Saturday, and she made a flying leap from the couch to the coffee table…without ever touching the ground. I guess she decided that the doggy stairs were for losers, or that 15-16 years is long enough to be alive. All I know is that the last couple of days have sucked and I’ve been an emotional mess.
I honestly thought for a couple of minutes that Miss Doxie had killed herself. She got up from the floor, wandered about 10 steps, and then just fell over. I freaked the heck out. Then I took a deep breath and called my vet. They were closing in 20 minutes and suggested that she might either be in shock or have given herself a mini-seizure. We agreed that I should monitor her and bring her in on Monday if she wasn’t better.
Well, she was walking around with a slight limp in half an hour. Then she ate and drank and just rested. Sunday seemed about the same. But Monday afternoon, she started yelping anytime she moved and just couldn’t get comfortable. I gave her another doggy aspirin (which apparently is like poison according to my vet, and I have now thrown it away) and kenneled her yet again. She couldn’t stop whining for more than 30 minutes all of Monday night. I got no real sleep.
We ended up getting fit in for an early appointment on Tuesday, and the vet came to the conclusion that she hurt her neck. $85 later, she’s on pain meds and a muscle relaxant. We’ll see if she’s better within the next week…
When you put this on top of the constant steroid pills and eye drops that I have to do with Mr. Pug, and you get a woman that is getting exhausted with broken dogs.
I Knew It Was Coming
All of this whining doesn’t mean that I wasn’t prepared. I knew we adopted middle-aged dogs. Miss Doxie was 7 years old when we adopted her from the Houston SPCA in 2005. Mr. Pug was 6 years old when we adopted him from PugHearts in 2009. That means that they are turning 16 years old and 11 years old respectively this year. Older dog maintenance costs more than those healthy middle years. But that doesn’t take away the pain in the butt.
It’s also getting to be that time where you have to seriously consider your dog’s quality of life. I don’t think Miss Doxie is ready to check out yet, but she is getting a bit closer. She’s becoming completely blind, sometimes acts confused and just stands still randomly for a few seconds, and injuries that she would have shaken off 3 years ago are kicking her butt now. Old age sucks. I’m just keeping an eye on her to make sure I can make the tough choice when “old age” becomes “wasting away”…I rather never make a dog suffer just because I want them around longer…
How are your pets doing? Have they ever hurt themselves doing something insane?