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My Recent Bursts of Energy

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So, I’m 13 weeks pregnant and am finally having a couple of days in a row where I’m nauseous occasionally but haven’t been throwing up.  Woot!  Did I write several posts so I could finally not feel behind on the blogging?  Nope.  Did I try to grow the pet sitting business in some miraculous way?  Nope.  Did I find a path to world peace or do the million errands pregnant people need to do before a baby comes wailing out of me?  Nope. I picked up my little downstairs domain of the house, assembled and decorated our Christmas tree, put up a few other decorations, sent out Christmas cards for the first time in years, cleaned the kitchen, and vacuumed the living room throw rug.  Oh, and I Amazon shopped for Christmas gifts (and am still not done) even though I am usually finished with Christmas shopping by Halloween.  Lastly I started binging on shows I DVR’d. Did any of that really HAVE to happen?  Nope.  Well, maybe the Christmas shopping (and I’m still not done). I’m not beating myself up about it though.  I’m scheduling in real time during the week to work on our businesses.  And when I … Read more

Accepting My Current Self

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This is my time of the year. Halloween is my holiday spirit animal, our favorite annual conventions are around the corner, I adore Christmas, we get to chill with family, friends, and food around Thanksgiving through the end of the year, my birthday is in late December, etc. In short, I’m an over-excited hot mess. I’m decking the halls with giant spider webs, jack o’ lanterns, and skulls.  I’m assembling a kick ass costume that I’ll use for Fincon Expo 2017, Halloween, the Renaissance Festival, and the Board Game Geek Convention.  I’ve started hoarding Christmas gifts for others as I see them.  I’m in my seasonal happy spot. Why It’s Harder to Write But during moments of inactivity, I take emotional punches straight to the face.  I dwell.  I dwell on the people that aren’t here anymore.  I dwell on the baby that didn’t happen.  I dwell on my insecurities and short-comings.  I dwell on not being the happier, less wrung-out, younger version of me…the me who started this site back in 2010. I want to be a positive person that others enjoy being around.  I still love helping and aim to make others laugh.  I crave connections.  But it’s … Read more

Let’s Whine About Insurance Costs!

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It’s that time of year for us again – most of our insurance policies are up for renewal.  I cringe every time I pay one of the bills, and yet I know that we’re actually getting fair renewal rates. How do I know?  I shop around every couple of years or when there is a significant jump in cost.  AND I talk a lot about everything to everybody, so I usually have a good idea of what is being paid by others. So chime in below so we can all keep up on the going rates in our own regions.  I’m starting with our most costly out-of-pocket coverage and working my way down.  Knowledge is power…knowledge of costs is the power to save money! Health Care Coverage We don’t technically have health insurance.  We joined Liberty Healthshare in 2016, which is a health cost sharing group.  It’s not actually insurance, but they work similarly.  They don’t guarantee coverage, have a maximum coverage amount of $1,000,000 per incident, and they don’t cover pre-existing conditions fully for the first few years. But they let us join, cost WAY less than our previous health insurance ($299 a month instead of $570+), and have … Read more

Please Stay – Suicide is Too Final #EndtheStigma #DebtDrop

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This blog post is part of the Suicide Prevention Awareness Month blog tour in partnership with Debt Drop.  If you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741.  #EndtheStigma #DebtDrop Last year around this time for #WSPD16, I posted about my own depression and the steps I take to feel less shitty.  But suicide isn’t just considered by people who are depressed.  It’s the ultimate out from anything.  The problem is that once that path is taken, you never get a chance to see what would have happened next.  So before it even gets to that point, how can we avoid wanting to escape? What do you need?  How can we all best be there for you?  What I Need For me, it’s my people – my “tribe”.  My husband, our parents, and our friends make it possible to make it through anything.  My tribe is full of caring, dependable people.  Granted, my support network grows and shrinks and changes with time, but that is okay too.  The key is simply being part of something bigger than yourself. Creating Your Support Network If you don’t have a tribe, reach out to … Read more

Our New Dog and Other Life Updates

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I’m so far behind on keeping y’all updated that it feels overwhelming.  Here…let me unload in sections and then see where we can go from there! We’re Welcoming a New Doggy! We’re finally adopting a pup again!  Her name is Khaleesi (no, we didn’t pick that…I would have gone with Xena, hehehe).  She’s a sweet mutt who is medium-sized (35-45 pounds), 8-10 years old, seems pretty mellow, and likes all humans and other animals. In May, she was near death thanks to starvation and a bad skin condition, so she was about to be euthanized at an animal shelter.  They called one of my Chow-rescuing pet sitting clients, Valory, about the “chow that needs to be saved”.  Well upon arrival, Khaleesi was definitely not a Chow but Valory couldn’t leave her to die, so she has been recovering for a few months.  Now she’ll be part of our family for the rest of her life. We’re excited; though a little worried she may like the cats more than us.  She’s tried licking Miss Rachel’s face multiple times now…and seems to think hissing is an interesting form of showing love.  Len has been calling her Pepe Le Pew since that is … Read more

I’m Having a Good Week!

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This has been an amazing week here in Crystal-land! 😉 Here, let me list the ways in which life is being awesome since I feel like I haven’t truly been able to share great news for a while without it being tinted with super crap. I’m Losing Weight! My weight loss and strength training is chugging along really well. I’m down 10-11 pounds since mid-June.  I started at 177-178 pounds and was at 167 by last weekend. I joined a few more Dietbets, and am even hosting a $10 one, so I’ll be motivated to continue losing weight even during our upcoming cruise. I won about $60 total from the 4 last month, so my “meh” feelings got pushed aside by the holy-hell-this-is-working feelings. Cruise Time Again! About a week ago, we booked another 7 day cruise that leaves at the end of the month. I booked us for another Chef’s Table experience onboard too. I’ll be taking the stairs instead of the elevator whenever possible and eating lots of small meals instead of pure binging. That combined with some swimming and walking-the-track time should equal fewer pounds packed on during that week. But gorging on food or not, we … Read more

I’m Still Here

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Yeppers, I am still here.  My most recent miscarriage, has made me crampy and tired, but I’m physically fine.  Medically, my two follow-up blood tests have shown my HCG falling like it should and I have another blood test this week. As usual, I can’t easily write informational posts when I’m sad.  It’s like my give-a-shit turns off.  But I can vent. My Current Mood In this specific case, I seem to have enough energy to keep up with pet sitting, my online business emails, and to stay in touch with friends and family.  Then I just want to eat donuts and nap. And I have been eating ALOT of donuts and taking MANY naps.  Yeah, I know the donuts are working against me, but if you mention that below, I will most likely tell you to fuck off.  That’s the sort of mood I’ve been in. I don’t have the classic 5 stages of grief.  I generally just vacillate between angry and sad/depression for a while and then bounce right to moving on. I am sincerely happy that pet sitting is awesome even when I’m not.  I get to pet, play, and talk to all the dogs and cats like usual, and … Read more