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Compensated for Our Inconvenience!!!

Hi!  I will update all of you baby lovers about Baby BFS super soon (she’s just past 7 weeks old, wowza), but I had to pass along a money thing ASAP. Long story summarized, our sweet next door neighbors are having a pool installed.  We gave their pool company permission to shortcut through our back yard to dig the initial hole.  Crap happened. The First Screw Up On Day 1, the digging crew shredded our fiber optic internet/cable line with the sheer weight of the Bobcat hole-digger.  AT&T was way behind on appointments and couldn’t make it out to run a new line for us FOR 6 DAYS. The Second Screw Up Then, after those 6 days and only 4 hours after AT&T ran a new line for us, the pool company’s fencing crew re-installed the fence section and DROVE A NAIL THROUGH THE NEW LINE.  It was another 2 days before AT&T could make it out again. NO INTERNET That’s 8 days without the internet.  Our very apologetic (and truly thoughtful since I would not have come up with this idea) neighbors bought a WIFI extender so we could use their internet in the northwest corner of our house.  … Read more

20 Things I Like To Do

I was reading this post at my blogging friend’s site, Surviving and Thriving, about 15 things she likes to do.  She mentions that she got the idea from a 20 things list that my other blogging buddy made over on his site, Get Rich Slowly. And sex was right up there with both of them (#1 for Donna – hubba, hubba…those puns must really work).  😉 Well, let’s see what I can come up with pretty quickly: Intimate Time with my Husband I do like sex.  But I also rate snuggling way up there.  And I enjoy the times we just tell each other about our day and make plans for the next one.  Pretty much, I’m lumping all my hubby relationship stuff together. Hang Out with Close Friends My close friends are like my counselors and adopted family combined.  I’m not sure they know how truly important they are to me.  10 years ago, I didn’t have that.  It was my husband, some acquaintances, and our families.  Now we have this amazing support network.  Board gaming and blogging are the two hobbies that truly opened up the world to my hubby and me. Family Time Our support network kicks … Read more

Six Good Things

Jana Says and Surviving and Thriving have started a trend with posts about the half dozen good things happening in their lives.  Since complaining is easy, and I do a lot of it, I loved the idea of just being thankful.  Here are my six specific good things right now… 1. Our daughter is kicking me now! I don’t have to use the fetal heart monitor every night to assure myself that our baby is chugging along.  Now I just have to lean over while sitting down.  That move squishes her apartment space and pisses her off, so I get a few solid kicks telling me to sit the hell up.  So not only is she kicking, but she is spunky like her momma.  I love it. 2. Upcoming Trips Before I hit the waddling stage of pregnancy, I’m fitting in a few last trips without my own kid in tow.  That means getting to work out the details for a quick weekend adventure with my bestie, Dee, and my adopted niece via Airbnb. Dee and I have used Airbnb twice already and it has been fantastic.  Once in 2016 to stay in a big RV at Canyon Lake so … Read more

Please Don’t Be Fully Financially Dependent on Someone Else

For anybody new, I’m 20-21 weeks pregnant as of right now.  I’ve been blogging about personal finance, budgeting, and my life in general here since February 2010.  And I just joined a few mommy Facebook groups in the last few weeks to help myself prepare for what is coming and to start building support networks since only a couple of our friends have kids.  Main New Mommy Group Topics Here is what I’ve figured out by just looking around the mommy group posts every day: 1.  Sleep is HUGE.  Sleep training versus just holding them versus whatever is like THE TOPIC, always.  I’m leaning towards a steady routine so they get used to a process, but obviously, there are dozens of ways to handle sleep time and you do whatever works for you, boo boo. 2.  Lack of partner support is sadly also one of the top topics.  Like depressingly prevalent.  For the record, I’m with anybody who says that partners don’t babysit their own kids while a mom takes a break.  It’s called taking care of your kid.  I get that we pregnant women have the breast milk and whatnot.  But that doesn’t mean the entire raising process of … Read more

The Gender Reveal!!!

Hope your holidays were awesome!!!  I’ve been feeling truly loved and lucky.  I think these past few weeks have been some of the best of my life.  I had a great trip overnight with my family and had a really good time with my parents, one of my uncles, and one of my sisters and her family.  I’m very proud of my other sister who was hard at work at her first job.  We then had an entire relaxed day with my inlaws – eating and talking and hanging out with his cousin’s 4 month old.  We were completely spoiled by both sides of our family and I feel extremely lucky to have the support network we do with this kid on the way!!! We also attended our annual 4 day board gaming convention the weekend after Christmas.  So we were able to ring in the new year with laughter, board games, and a surprise birthday dinner for me thanks to friends.  This week is filled with more birthday fun with both of our families, so woot! And to top it all off, between Christmas and New Year’s, we finally received the results from those blood samples they took from … Read more

My Recent Bursts of Energy

So, I’m 13 weeks pregnant and am finally having a couple of days in a row where I’m nauseous occasionally but haven’t been throwing up.  Woot!  Did I write several posts so I could finally not feel behind on the blogging?  Nope.  Did I try to grow the pet sitting business in some miraculous way?  Nope.  Did I find a path to world peace or do the million errands pregnant people need to do before a baby comes wailing out of me?  Nope. I picked up my little downstairs domain of the house, assembled and decorated our Christmas tree, put up a few other decorations, sent out Christmas cards for the first time in years, cleaned the kitchen, and vacuumed the living room throw rug.  Oh, and I Amazon shopped for Christmas gifts (and am still not done) even though I am usually finished with Christmas shopping by Halloween.  Lastly I started binging on shows I DVR’d. Did any of that really HAVE to happen?  Nope.  Well, maybe the Christmas shopping (and I’m still not done). I’m not beating myself up about it though.  I’m scheduling in real time during the week to work on our businesses.  And when I … Read more

Accepting My Current Self

This is my time of the year. Halloween is my holiday spirit animal, our favorite annual conventions are around the corner, I adore Christmas, we get to chill with family, friends, and food around Thanksgiving through the end of the year, my birthday is in late December, etc. In short, I’m an over-excited hot mess. I’m decking the halls with giant spider webs, jack o’ lanterns, and skulls.  I’m assembling a kick ass costume that I’ll use for Fincon Expo 2017, Halloween, the Renaissance Festival, and the Board Game Geek Convention.  I’ve started hoarding Christmas gifts for others as I see them.  I’m in my seasonal happy spot. Why It’s Harder to Write But during moments of inactivity, I take emotional punches straight to the face.  I dwell.  I dwell on the people that aren’t here anymore.  I dwell on the baby that didn’t happen.  I dwell on my insecurities and short-comings.  I dwell on not being the happier, less wrung-out, younger version of me…the me who started this site back in 2010. I want to be a positive person that others enjoy being around.  I still love helping and aim to make others laugh.  I crave connections.  But it’s … Read more