J. Money had an interesting conversation with his neighbor last week about a homeless shelter being opened near them and the pushback from people that think it will cause an increase in crimes like theft. J’s neighbor said something along the lines of “It’s Your Own Fault You Own Expensive Stuff“. Uh, no. Keep your thieving hands off of my stuff!
I’d Support the Shelter
Before you read any further, you should know I’m all for homeless shelters and would support one being built outside my own neighborhood. My bleeding heart pisses a few of my neighbors off. Oh well. I believe a shelter can exist and the crime rate doesn’t have to skyrocket. Yes, it could, just like it could if it was an apartment complex or another gas station or anything else. But if managed well, and neighbors help neighbors keep an eye out, it doesn’t have to. And the benefit to others could be greater than the negatives. People have more power than they think.
But My Stuff is MY Stuff
That said, I earned the money to buy or was given my stuff. Mine. Keep off. Here was my reply on J’s blog:
I agree that it’s our own fault if we own expensive stuff, but I also agree that doesn’t make it okay for someone to take it. I earned the money to buy or had the privilege of knowing the people who gave me my stuff. And sorry, but yeah, I have a lot of stuff that I’d freak out about if it was stolen. I like or love my stuff or I wouldn’t have it.
My photos and albums are priceless to me. My wallet would be a pain in the butt since I’d have to cancel everything and be out hundreds in gift cards. Plus, I’m wallet picky and it took me weeks to find one I wanted to use since it could hold everything. My laptop would be awful since I only back it up like twice or three times a year, and there are pictures and info on it at any given time that isn’t anywhere else. My projector upstairs has been good to us and I sort of love it. Then I have some jewelry passed down to me from my family and my husband’s family that I’m emotionally attached to now. And any of the other gadgets or art or books or even DVDs in my house would be a pain since I’d have to take the time to replace them…we only buy or find what we want to own. So yeah, it would be mainly a pain in the butt, but I’m also emotionally attached to some of it and would feel very violated.
I’m betting less than 20% of our stuff would be un-missed or not replaced. Doesn’t help that we just went on an organizational binge and purged stuff we didn’t use or want.
I’m glad we have 5 adults living here on different schedules, an alarm, a gun, and a taser. I would defend my husband, friends/roommates, and home stuff. Don’t piss off this Ginger.
And yet, I’d be 100% in support of a homeless shelter being started in or around my neighborhood. I don’t think all people in need are thieves. My mom and I were on welfare for a small part of my very young years and she never stole a dang thing. I’d volunteer at that shelter and bring food regularly. And it’s not like only the homeless can be thieves. Our biggest problem around here are spoiled rotten teenagers that do shitty things for fun.
Stuff is Stuff
To summarize, yeah, stuff is just stuff. I care more about the people and animals than the things we all own. BUT, I like those things too! I don’t see it as fair or my own fault if someone decides to help themselves simply because I have something that they don’t. I don’t take candy from kids unless offered, I don’t get sticky fingers around stuff I like at stores or in other people’s homes, and I expect the same level of decency when it comes to my things. If you didn’t earn it, buy it from me, or I didn’t give it to you, buzz off! Buy your own wallet, computer, purse, electronics, etc.!
What do you think?