WARNING: I’m a sharer who will be talking about trying to get pregnant and my pregnancy. If you didn’t know, all of that stuff includes subjects that some people may find too personal or think it’s “too much information” (TMI). If you are that sort of person, my blog is probably not for you but specifically, these posts aren’t for you. Thanks!
I Was Going to Get Pregnant, Gosh Darn It!
I’m 33 years old (turning 34 this week), and I was using the Nuvaring for birth control for more than a decade. I stopped in November 2015. My body returned to normal, baby-making processes in early 2016…and we tried…and we tried…and then my best friend got pregnant…
Then I became a competitive beyatch and started paying attention to the awesome suggestions you all made in previous “I’m trying” posts. I wanted to get pregnant and I was willing to pee in tiny cups.
Tried Something New – Ovulation Testing Strips
My hubby and I had been just having unprotected sex a few times a week hoping we’d get lucky (hehehehe, get it?).
Thanks to Kasey, a commenter in my second official update, I decided to go scientific. I ordered this 50 count box of ovulation testing strips that included 20 pregnancy tests for $20.50. This exact product…probably not much better than the Dollar Tree brand…
In case you are trying and this helps, most women ovulate 10-14 days after the first day of their last period…you count by Cycle Days (CD). The first day of your period is CD 1. I dipped in ovulation tests every 2 days from CD 6-9. Then I started testing daily from CD 10-17. By Cycle Day (CD) 16, I was convinced I was broken. But I was going to keep it up until my next period started just so I’d know for sure that I needed to get a doctor’s appointment set up.
But on CD18, a full 4 days after the majority of women, I saw a glaringly bright POSITIVE on that test strip!!! That means that I was having the hormone surge that indicates that I would be ovulating in 12-36 hours. We got in on CD 18, 19, and 20 just like everyone suggests online.
Then I crossed my fingers that my next period wouldn’t pop up on CD 26-28 like usual…that’s a very small window for an egg to be fertilized and park itself before a period washes away all the hard work.
CD 26 FINALLY arrived…no period. CD 27…no period. CD 28, December 16, 2016…NO PERIOD. I’m never late. Not ever. I started getting excited but was trying to stomp it down a bit so I wouldn’t be crushed on CD 29. But NO PERIOD!
I took a pregnancy test CD 29 but it was still negative. I told myself to have patience and wait until CD 35 or so…well, I have no patience.
So I took another pregnancy test CD 30 and saw a ghost of a positive line after 10 minutes. But it wasn’t even colored, so again, I didn’t want to get excited. On CD 31, I saw a super faint line after I had given up on looking. That night, a slightly less faint line appeared.
According to everything about every pregnancy test ever, I WAS PREGNANT. But I’ll admit the lines weren’t spectacularly convincing.
So, on December 20, 2016, I paid Planned Parenthood $59 to take their pregnancy test…
I AM OFFICIALLY PREGNANT
Because of some weird doctor math about pregnancies actually starting the first day of your previous period, I magically was 4 weeks pregnant even though the conception date was definitely only 10-11 days before the tests were showing as positive.
That means I am 5 weeks and a few days pregnant as you read this. I took off last week for the holidays and to let all of this sink in.
I Consciously Choose to Share
I know a significant portion of people wouldn’t share this early since the percentage chance of a miscarriage between weeks 4-8 is about 12%-15%. It drops to 2% somewhere between Weeks 8-12 and stays there for the rest of the pregnancy.
But, I would want to share if I miscarried anyway, so you might as well know that I’m carrying!
With a little luck, Peanut will become a healthy baby boy or girl! Otherwise, we will mourn and probably start trying again. I think Peanut is going to hang in there just fine though…oh yeah, I call it “Peanut”. I do plan on finding out the sex and sharing that when we do, but I’ll probably still call him/her Peanut around here. I like the nickname…makes me smile.
Now What? What I’ve Been Doing Since Getting Pregnant…
So far, I’ve done hours of research trying to find real info. I’ve also contacted Liberty Healthshare to make sure I can use absolutely anybody I want as an OB-GYN or midwife or whatever. We’ll be covered after we spend our first $1000 in medical expenses this year, which won’t be hard since we already spent a few hundred and the first doctor’s visit for this will be around $470!
After really thinking about what I want, I chose a local, well reviewed OB-GYN that has privileges at one of the best hospitals in the area for having a baby. It has a birthing wing that keeps the baby in the room with you, a Level III NICU, and a specialized surgery area for mommies in emergency situations.
My Dream Birth
A few neighbors vouched that the OB-GYN doesn’t push for C-sections and the hospital doesn’t push epidurals or drugs if you wish to skip out on them. They were able to have all natural births in the hospital with this doctor. My first appointment is scheduled right around my 8 week mark in mid-January.
That’s my aim – grow a healthy parasite into a healthy baby that is going to hopefully come out of me and go directly onto my boobs without me needing a needle to the spine. We’ll see. A doula has also been on my mind, but I’m going to wait until after my first ultrasound to worry about that step.
For the pregnancy itself, I’m just hoping to avoid a horrific 9 months. Thanks to my sister a couple of years ago, and my best friend who is now 16-17 weeks in, I know what’s in store for me as this goes along. I just hope to stay on the constant ache side of things and not the kill-me-now side.
The whole process is freaking barbaric and I can’t believe we women put up with it, LOL. Please keep in mind that just because I’m aiming for something you didn’t do, doesn’t mean I am judging. Hell, my best friend and I aren’t using the same OB-GYN or hospital and I don’t even know what she thinks of epidurals really. It won’t matter to me…I’m just going to worry about me and support her the best I can too.
Opinions and Advice Welcome
I like blogging, receiving comments, and having an online community. I will welcome opinions and advice. I may not use all of it, but I won’t be offended. Please don’t be offended if I basically smile and nod.
Hope everyone is having babies or not having babies as they wish right now!!! I’ll keep you updated on Peanut!!!
FYI: I worked at a dead end cubicle job from 2005-2011 for about $30,000 a year. I went self-employed in July 2011 and make between $80,000-$100,000 through blogging, a rental home, and professional pet sitting. If you’d like to start your own site (link to my free step-by-step guide), I highly suggest checking out Bluehost (my referral link with a nice discount for you). I even have all of my favorite tools on a resource page - I hope they help you too. This all gives me the time to be with my aging family members, the flexibility to stay close with my friends and family, and it should help if we finally get pregnant too! Please contact me any time at budgetingfunstuff*at*gmail*dot*com with questions or just to brainstorm! I’d love to help!