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A big big announcement today- I'm pregnant! We are thrilled and have been looking forward to being able to share the news.

WARNING: I’m a sharer who will be talking about trying to get pregnant and my pregnancy. If you didn’t know, all of that stuff includes subjects that some people may find too personal or think it’s “too much information” (TMI). If you are that sort of person, my blog is probably not for you but specifically, these posts aren’t for you. Thanks!

I Was Going to Get Pregnant, Gosh Darn It!

I’m 33 years old (turning 34 this week), and I was using the Nuvaring for birth control for more than a decade. I stopped in November 2015.  My body returned to normal, baby-making processes in early 2016…and we tried…and we tried…and then my best friend got pregnant…

Then I became a competitive beyatch and started paying attention to the awesome suggestions you all made in previous “I’m trying” posts.  I wanted to get pregnant and I was willing to pee in tiny cups.

Tried Something New – Ovulation Testing Strips

My hubby and I had been just having unprotected sex a few times a week hoping we’d get lucky (hehehehe, get it?).

Thanks to Kasey, a commenter in my second official update, I decided to go scientific. I ordered this 50 count box of ovulation testing strips that included 20 pregnancy tests for $20.50.  This exact product…probably not much better than the Dollar Tree brand…

In case you are trying and this helps, most women ovulate 10-14 days after the first day of their last period…you count by Cycle Days (CD).  The first day of your period is CD 1.  I dipped in ovulation tests every 2 days from CD 6-9.  Then I started testing daily from CD 10-17.  By Cycle Day (CD) 16, I was convinced I was broken.  But I was going to keep it up until my next period started just so I’d know for sure that I needed to get a doctor’s appointment set up.

But on CD18, a full 4 days after the majority of women, I saw a glaringly bright POSITIVE on that test strip!!!  That means that I was having the hormone surge that indicates that I would be ovulating in 12-36 hours.  We got in on CD 18, 19, and 20 just like everyone suggests online.

Then I crossed my fingers that my next period wouldn’t pop up on CD 26-28 like usual…that’s a very small window for an egg to be fertilized and park itself before a period washes away all the hard work.


CD 26 FINALLY arrived…no period.  CD 27…no period.  CD 28, December 16, 2016…NO PERIOD.  I’m never late.  Not ever.  I started getting excited but was trying to stomp it down a bit so I wouldn’t be crushed on CD 29.  But NO PERIOD!

I took a pregnancy test CD 29 but it was still negative.  I told myself to have patience and wait until CD 35 or so…well, I have no patience.

So I took another pregnancy test CD 30 and saw a ghost of a positive line after 10 minutes.  But it wasn’t even colored, so again, I didn’t want to get excited.  On CD 31, I saw a super faint line after I had given up on looking.  That night, a slightly less faint line appeared.

According to everything about every pregnancy test ever, I WAS PREGNANT.  But I’ll admit the lines weren’t spectacularly convincing.

So, on December 20, 2016, I paid Planned Parenthood $59 to take their pregnancy test…


Because of some weird doctor math about pregnancies actually starting the first day of your previous period, I magically was 4 weeks pregnant even though the conception date was definitely only 10-11 days before the tests were showing as positive.

That means I am 5 weeks and a few days pregnant as you read this.  I took off last week for the holidays and to let all of this sink in.

I Consciously Choose to Share

I know a significant portion of people wouldn’t share this early since the percentage chance of a miscarriage between weeks 4-8 is about 12%-15%.  It drops to 2% somewhere between Weeks 8-12 and stays there for the rest of the pregnancy.

But, I would want to share if I miscarried anyway, so you might as well know that I’m carrying!

With a little luck, Peanut will become a healthy baby boy or girl!  Otherwise, we will mourn and probably start trying again.  I think Peanut is going to hang in there just fine though…oh yeah, I call it “Peanut”.  I do plan on finding out the sex and sharing that when we do, but I’ll probably still call him/her Peanut around here.  I like the nickname…makes me smile.

Now What?  What I’ve Been Doing Since Getting Pregnant…

So far, I’ve done hours of research trying to find real info.  I’ve also contacted Liberty Healthshare to make sure I can use absolutely anybody I want as an OB-GYN or midwife or whatever.  We’ll be covered after we spend our first $1000 in medical expenses this year, which won’t be hard since we already spent a few hundred and the first doctor’s visit for this will be around $470!

After really thinking about what I want, I chose a local, well reviewed OB-GYN that has privileges at one of the best hospitals in the area for having a baby.  It has a birthing wing that keeps the baby in the room with you, a Level III NICU, and a specialized surgery area for mommies in emergency situations.

My Dream Birth

A few neighbors vouched that the OB-GYN doesn’t push for C-sections and the hospital doesn’t push epidurals or drugs if you wish to skip out on them.  They were able to have all natural births in the hospital with this doctor.  My first appointment is scheduled right around my 8 week mark in mid-January.

That’s my aim – grow a healthy parasite into a healthy baby that is going to hopefully come out of me and go directly onto my boobs without me needing a needle to the spine.  We’ll see.  A doula has also been on my mind, but I’m going to wait until after my first ultrasound to worry about that step.

For the pregnancy itself, I’m just hoping to avoid a horrific 9 months.  Thanks to my sister a couple of years ago, and my best friend who is now 16-17 weeks in, I know what’s in store for me as this goes along.  I just hope to stay on the constant ache side of things and not the kill-me-now side.

The whole process is freaking barbaric and I can’t believe we women put up with it, LOL.  Please keep in mind that just because I’m aiming for something you didn’t do, doesn’t mean I am judging.  Hell, my best friend and I aren’t using the same OB-GYN or hospital and I don’t even know what she thinks of epidurals really.  It won’t matter to me…I’m just going to worry about me and support her the best I can too.

Opinions and Advice Welcome

I like blogging, receiving comments, and having an online community. I will welcome opinions and advice. I may not use all of it, but I won’t be offended. Please don’t be offended if I basically smile and nod.

Hope everyone is having babies or not having babies as they wish right now!!!  I’ll keep you updated on Peanut!!!

FYI:  I worked at a dead end cubicle job from 2005-2011 for about $30,000 per year.  I went self-employed in July 2011 and make between $70,000-$90,000 through blogging, professional pet sitting, hubby's reffing, and our rental home.  If you’d like to start your own site (link to my free step-by-step guide), I highly suggest checking out Bluehost (my referral link with a nice discount for you, PLUS a free custom header banner from me!).  Please contact me any time at budgetingfunstuff*at*gmail*dot*com with questions or just to brainstorm! I’d love to help!
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28 thoughts on “I’M PREGNANT!!!!!

  1. Such exciting news! I have been following you for a couple years now and I was excited for you when you had fur babies and now I am excited for you that you will have a human baby! 🙂 I wanted natural childbirth also but I had health issues and ended up having to have C-sections with all three of my babies. The best advice I can give is to roll with the punches. Once I got over being so sad that I was not giving birth how I pictured I saw the good things. Like having a planned date that I could work around. Also, I had all kinds of problems with breastfeeding with the first baby but we just kept trying and cried together (lol) and finally baby and I got the hang of it.
    So excited for both of you! Congrats!

  2. Congratulations! Such great news!

    The best advice I received from my first OB in my first pregnancy was research all you want, know what your ideal scenario is and thoroughly discuss with your spouse and doctor. However, beware of written birth plans. They limit your ability to change your mind! A document you write out in your “normal” state of mind will override anything you say while you are under duress in delivery. (Like if you specify no drugs in a written document, you can’t change your mind during labor). My doctors and hospital were amazing and they explained everything all along and helped me make informed decisions.

    I know you are probably one person I don’t have to say this to, but go with your gut. If you ever feel uncomfortable or unhappy with the care you are getting seek other care. Don’t feel trapped. From one experience at the beginning of my sister’s pregnancy she was unsure about the doctor she had chosen. She stuck with them and ended up having a horrible labor and delivery experience.

    Good luck!!

  3. Wow! Congrats!!! So excited for you. Becoming a mom is the hardest thing you’ll ever do, but the most rewarding. My kids are four and eight now, you’ll soon get past the early stages where they depend on you for EVERYTHING…like growing them inside you.
    I listen to the Jillian Michaels podcast and she wrote a pregnancy book that I’d read if I were having another kid. Her partner was preggo the same time I was with my youngest and the podcast had lots of helpful tips about it…like it only takes 50,000 extra calories to grow the baby…so don’t really eat for two. and the baby develops it’s tastes for foods in the womb so get Peanut addicted to fruit and veggies early on.

  4. Aww, Crystal I am so happy for you. Hubby and I tried for 18m before having our little girl. She’s almost 2 now.

    A big congratualtions! Your life is going to completely change!

  5. Congrats! I’m so happy for you! I’ve been following you for over 3 years now, even though I haven’t commented much. I’m due at the end of May, so I know what you are going through. It’s so exciting! If the $1000 is a deductible, it will probably start over next month, mine is, but mine is $3500 I think, ouch!

  6. Wow! Congratulations, Crystal!!! I know how much this has meant to you. Looks like the next 9 months (and then the next 18 years) will make for interesting reading. 😉

  7. I’m so excited!! it sounds like you have a good OB/hospital. If local peeps have had a good experience then you should be set and get what you want. That’s really hard for some people, in some areas.

  8. You know I’m over here sending nesting vibes to the Peanut. You better stay happy and healthy in there! 🙂

    I will say that written birth plans aren’t always considered as written in stone. I thought they were but at our hospital they were more concerned about appropriately addressing the situation as it comes, since things can change so easily and quickly, and so my written birth plan was quite different to how things played out. And that was ok! But it’s good to know how your chosen deliveryperson (hah, like it’s takeout) will approach it.

  9. I’m finally back from the holidays. Peanut wears me out several times a day and way earlier at night than usual, so I’m still playing catchup. That will probably be the story of the rest of my life, right? 😀 Anyway, thank you all for your well wishes and congrats!!! Really!!! I loved seeing these pop up over the last week!!! I’m scanning through them again now to answer specific questions below. 🙂

    @Lindsay, the only animals I see give birth are usually imbred/purebred dogs that need a lot of help, so I’m hoping for a birth even easier than that, hahahahaha. But I get your point and thank you. 😉

    @Karla, “roll with the punches” is the best advice for life in general. No worries here. I’m a realist – I have an ideal situation in mind but anything that results in not my own death or the death of Peanut will be considered a win. 😀

    @MomofTwo, thanks. I meet my OBGYN in a couple of weeks, and yes, if we don’t mesh, I’m looking around. I definitely need a doctor that works with me and protects us at the same time.

    @Charlotte, I also heard about eating less than you are led to believe and making sure to be eclectic. Peanut has now been exposed to meat (medium well, which is nearly gross but they’ll move on to medium and medium rare at their own pace later, lol), veggies, fruits, Vietnamese, Venezuelan, Mexican, Cajun, and all sorts of soups and desserts. And donuts. And Persian on Thursday! Hopefully I’ll mix it up enough the whole 9 months that he/she won’t be a picky eater!

    @ESI Money, if things go smoothly and I heal quickly, Peanut will be going to Fincon with me (and probably my mom or my mom-in-law or somebody). I probably won’t make it to many sessions, but I want to see my people! If things don’t go as planned, I’ll have to play it by ear. But Dallas is a 3.5 hour drive…

    @Trista, since we don’t have “real” insurance, our “contribution” of $1000 covers us a year from our signup, so Sept 2016 through August 2017. But that means it may be resetting when I deliver. But we’ll have to pay the $1000 both years anyway since I saw how many baby appointments there are that first year anyway! 😉 Congrats to you too!!! Good luck!!! And thanks for following me for so long!!!

    @Mitch, hehehehe. I promise I’ll write about things other than Peanut too. 😉

    @Helen, it helped that I could go to anybody. Yay Liberty Healthshare!

    @Revanche, thank you for the Peanut protection vibes! My general plan is to stay general. Like something on paper that says, “Remember I’m that one that wants to try to do this all naturally without an epidural. Wait a minute before cutting the cord and put the baby on me as fast as humanly possible. If shit happens, do your thing and good luck to us all!”

    Thanks again, everybody!!!!!

  10. Congrats!! My little guy’s nickname is Peanut too. Should be pretty funny in 10 years when he is taller than me. 🙂

  11. Congratulations! Like others have said, biggest and hardest change of your life, but also one of the more rewarding ones. Listen to advice from everyone (because they’ll give it to you unasked!), but filter it through what you think will work for you and your family – take what works, leave the rest. And definitely ask for advice when something doesn’t work to get more ideas to try!

  12. CONGRATULATIONS! That’s awesome that the OB and hospital are open to whatever YOU want for your birth. Honestly that’s the biggest stressor I’ve seen people have is a hospital or doctor that’s not open to going with/without drugs, etc. Can’t wait to read more! 🙂

  13. Congrats! My little one is 17 months and what I learned is that they start eating food almost out of the womb (it was 6 months for me) and it is expensive and wasteful (though also adorable). Trying to save money on food has always been my thing, so it hurts my heart to watch my son throw a plate of food on the floor (though I know it is a part of his process–or so I hope). I know you’ve probably heard this all before, but I wanted to say that if you are going for quality knock-off brands, I highly recommend Walmart. They are usually much cheaper (unless there are bogos elsewhere, which happens a lot, but watch the expiration dates–I’ve been burned by many grocery stores–kids food has very short shelf lives) and he never complains or notices a difference. Also, any restaurant that offers a free kid meal is a bonus. The portions are usually quite nice, so you can save for later (Tijuana Flats has a huge kids meal that is reasonably priced if you can break it into two meals, though that wasn’t the case last week when he ate the whole thing.) Bob Evans also has a nice free meal for the kiddos. Seriously, he eats like a full-grown adult. They say it is normal but I might have a lumberjack on my hands.

  14. Congratulations! That is wonderful to hear. You’ll do great!

    I did childbirth classes with my first and my husband was my sole birth support. For babies #2 and #3, I had doulas and they were invaluable.


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