Yeah, it punched us in the gut too.
What is a Blighted Ovum?
My medical diagnosis is a “blighted ovum”. That sounds creepy, but it means that our sperm and egg met, decided to get serious, but broke it off before they moved in together.
By the time my body created a gestational sac and went full-on pregnancy mode, no embryo or anything was around to move in. But my body was already so far into the process that it just kept going, flooding me with pregnancy hormones and symptoms for another 5 weeks. Then it realized that something wasn’t quite right…though it could take another 3 weeks to figure out exactly what needs to be done, so I’m having a D&C (uterine spring cleaning) done on Monday.
In short, Peanut decided not to hop onto this crazy train quite yet.
Miscarriages Suck, Duh
I’m crampy and coping. Len is handling it more privately but making sure to be there for me every step of the way. We’re sad and angry and sad and okay. It simply sucks. All loss sucks. Can’t go much deeper than that.
Oh, and it’s been astounding learning about how many women I know in person and online that have had miscarriages. This is freaking normal. Awful but normal. Like every other loss we all have to deal with at some point. Ugh.
We’ll Be Trying Again
As crappy as this is, we were able to get me pregnant on the first try using ovulation sticks. That’s a win. My OB-GYN confirmed this blighted ovum miscarriage doesn’t negatively effect future pregnancy attempts. It is going to take an average of 4-12 weeks for my body to reset itself to “Start”. We’re very hopeful that we’ll have happier results down the road.
I’m okay. Just not pregnant anymore.
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