Before you yell at me, obviously it is possible to make enough money to live and save on. You have hopefully read one or two of my posts and know that we are good. We pay our bills, save for our future, and spend on fun along the way. But the more I talk to my friends and really listen to my husband, the more it becomes obvious that it is impossible to make enough to cover absolutely every need, want, and savings goal that we will ever have. We want too much.
Needs and Wants
Our need list is really short. We need:
- A place to live
- High speed internet (our job is 100% online)
But we want out of our needs is:
- A really nice place to live
- Food based on what we crave
- Utilities above what we really “need” since I like air conditioning and a green lawn
- Super high speed internet
Then we want a bunch of things that are really important to us too:
- Emergency fund savings since we like a ton of padding
- Retirement savings
- To pay cash for our next car
- To pay off our house in 10 years or less (6 years or less like our first house would be great)
- Biweekly housekeeping and lawn services
- Entertainment like cable and Netflix
Then we want even more stuff that is just low priority:
- I want a new laptop since mine is 6 years old and breaking down piece by piece.
- We want a new dishwasher since the builder’s one sucks.
- I want nice landscaping and an automatic sprinkler system.
- Hubby wants an awesome library chair/chaise lounge.
- We want new furniture for the living room and media room.
We Can’t Have It All
Just because we make more now than we have before doesn’t mean we get to buy or save everything we want money for…it just means we have more money to use towards our priorities. There is never going to be enough cash just sitting around to satisfy our every whim. I’m okay with that. I just have to remind myself of it when I have those days that I’m feeling like an entitled brat.
The Only Way to Be Happy
The only way any person is ever content with life is when they are honestly happy with what they have and stop basing their happiness on what they don’t have. In my experience, everyone has bad moments once in a while, but the difference between a general optimist and a general pessimist is that the optimist concentrates on the good way more often.
I have no idea what the “true” meaning if life is. Sorry, I don’t have all of the answers. But I know that I feel better when I help others. I feel better when I stay busy. And I feel better when I am making those around me happy. So my meaning of life is to be a generally good person that helps others and hopefully has some of my best feelings rub off on others.
So I try to take my own advice. I try to be grateful and happy as much as possible with the blessings I have. There are days that I mope around and get all whiny, but those are outnumbered by all of the great days. Life is too short to feel unfulfilled and crabby all of the time. And I know that I control my outlook. That’s on me. So I will continue to try to make every day a content one.
How about you? Do you ever find yourself concentrating more on what you don’t have? Or are you already pretty good on staying positive and being content with your life? Any tricks to stay positive or better a bad mood? How about any tricks to wanting less?
FYI: I worked at a dead end cubicle job from 2005-2011 for about $30,000 a year. I went self-employed in July 2011 and make between $80,000-$100,000 through blogging, a rental home, and professional pet sitting. If you’d like to start your own site (link to my free step-by-step guide), I highly suggest checking out Bluehost (my referral link with a nice discount for you). I even have all of my favorite tools on a resource page – I hope they help you too.
This all gives me the time to be with my aging family members, the flexibility to stay close with my friends and family, and it should help if we finally get pregnant too! Please contact me any time at budgetingfunstuff*at*gmail*dot*com with questions or just to brainstorm! I’d love to help!