One of our favorite tv shows is “Royal Pains”. It is about a concierge doctor doing what he does best in the Hamptons since he was fired from his emergency room position in the first episode. It’s actually a feel good show, which I appreciate. As you can guess, there are a billion lessons to learn from the stuff you see in the fake Hamptons, but the most recent subplot is what caught my attention.
The TV Problem
One of the main characters, Divya, is Doctor Hank’s physician assistant. She was arranged to be married to a long-time family friend, but she pulled out at the last minute at the end of last season. Since she has refused to be in another arranged marriage, her very wealthy family cut her off for the first time ever. At first, I was worried the writer’s were going to make this very intelligent character a complete financial bimbo, but she catches on that she needs to be frugal right off the bat. The big kink is that her ex-inlaws-to-be have demanded that she repay them for all the money they had spent on the wedding and stupid fru-fru events and plane tickets. So she gets a second job to pay them back.
Lessons to be Learned
First of all, I thought the writers captured the character perfectly. She is written as a smart woman with a HUGE dose of responsibility and dependability. I thought that deciding to pay back the ex’s parents would be right up her alley. But I started to wonder if she should even be responsible for all the silly charges that were completely up to their whims.
In the real world, if I had cancelled my wedding at the last minute, I would feel like I would have needed to send back the gifts, return my husband’s family ring, and pay back all the charges my ex’s family had incurred like the reception decorations and honeymoon. But I wouldn’t think I should have to pay for whatever crazy private dinner they were going to throw for the family the following day. That would be on them.
In short, I’d have a line.
How Common Are Wedding Cancellations?
All of this said, I’m going off on another rabbit trail. What is with all of the last minute wedding cancellations on tv and in movies? I do not understand. Most weddings take months to plan and hopefully the couple has been together long enough to know if forever is right for them. Was I the only bride never to even think about cancelling? It wasn’t “if” we were getting married – it was just a matter of “when”. We aren’t perfect and there are days that I think “damn it”, but if I wasn’t sure about marrying my guy, I sure as hell wouldn’t have put in all the work to plan a big event. I hate party planning. It was a hassle. We ended up having a great wedding, but I wouldn’t even have called the university chapel if I wasn’t 100% sure I’d be using it.
What do you think? Should Divya be on the hook for all of the splurges? Our last minute wedding cancellations that common?