This blog post is part of the 3rd Annual Suicide Prevention Awareness Month blog tour for the 3rd year running. If you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741. Please feel free to check out my last two posts too –
In short, please don’t kill yourself over anything. But especially money.
You are not alone. Ever felt like the world would be better off without you? Or thought that the only way out of whatever you were feeling was to die? That’s sadly pretty normal. It has gone through the head of MILLIONS of us. BUT IT ISN’T TRUE. The world isn’t better without us in it. We have other options. And specifically, money problems can be fixed!
Debt, even giant debts, can be paid off. Money can be made. It’s just money. It is not as important as your life.
I highly suggest volunteer work! At my lowest, I was still useful and needed at my volunteer shifts. Those dogs wouldn’t get their potty break without me. And there would be hungry people waiting in their homes if I didn’t show up for my Meals on Wheels route.
Committing yourself to others helps anchor you to something other than yourself.
You can check out volunteer opportunities around you right this second at https://www.volunteermatch.org/…I just looked and I’m seriously considering taking a few short shifts a week just hanging out with people at the hospice down the street.
Ask for Help
And I’m not even just talking about suicide stuff. Whenever you are stuck with an insurmountable-feeling problem, ask for help. Share with others and you’d be surprised how often the solution is presented!
I am a talker. I share my ups and downs with pretty much anybody who seems interested. This not only helps create bonds with others, but people are able to help me because they know what I need! For example, when I am feeling overwhelmed by my new mom-hood, just by being honest about that out loud, I’ve received babysitting help, great suggestions to help us all get more sleep, and amazing advice on all sorts of things infant related! Sharing your feelings and worries can help in so many ways.
Overall, debt (or any other issue) does NOT define you. Your actions are way more telling. So be kind to others AND yourself. Be open. Be true. Be persistent. Be there for others.
Please just BE. Don’t take yourself out of the equation. You are MUCH more than your debt.
#EndTheStigma and #DebtDrop
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
- Crisis Text Line — Text HOME to 741741
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention
- Project Semicolon
- Open Path Collective — affordable therapy. You can also check your local college to see if their graduate program in counseling offers discounted sessions.
- Debtors Anonymous
FYI: I worked at a dead end cubicle job from 2005-2011 for about $30,000 per year. I went self-employed in July 2011 and make between $70,000-$90,000 through blogging, professional pet sitting, hubby's reffing, and our rental home. If you’d like to start your own site (link to my free step-by-step guide), I highly suggest checking out Bluehost (my referral link with a nice discount for you, PLUS a free custom header banner from me!). Please contact me any time at budgetingfunstuff*at*gmail*dot*com with questions or just to brainstorm! I’d love to help!