Jason at Live Real, Now wrote about some family members that are unemployed and aren’t looking to change since “it’s in God’s hands”. Apparently, they have lived like this for as long as he’s known them. It reminds me of this joke I heard in college:
There’s this huge flood one day, and an entire town looks like it’s going to be swallowed up by the waters. The Police and rescue organizations are running all over the place trying to get people to safety.
They send the rescue boat over to this house where a guy’s sitting on the roof with the water lapping around his ankles, and they say “Come on, quickly, there isn’t much time!”
To which he says “Nah, it’s ok, God will provide.”
About an hour later they’re zooming past in the boat again, and they notice the guy’s still there, only the water’s up to his waist. “Quick” they say, “Get in the boat, it’s going to get worse before it gets better!”
“Nah, don’t worry – God will provide.”
An hour after that, a rescue helicopter flies over the area and notices the guy, who must be standing on the peak of the roof now, with only his head and shoulders out of the water. “GRAB THE ROPE!” they cry “IT’S YOUR ONLY HOPE!”
“Don’t worry,” he replies calmly, “God will provide.”
So he drowns as expected. When he gets to heaven, he’s confused and a little ticked off with God. He expresses his concern saying “I had FAITH! I BELIEVED in you! And still you didn’t help me! Why?!”
“HELP YOU?!” God thunders, “What MORE did you want?! I sent you two boats and a helicopter!”
That pretty much sums up how I feel about a lot of opportunities that I see people pass up. Phrases like “I don’t have any extra money to save” seem a bit silly when they are said while the person is smoking a $7 pack of cigarettes, or drinking a $5 beer at a bar, or eating a $3 gourmet cupcake. I’ll suggest money-making side hustles that they could do with their free time like dog walking, scrap aluminum recycling, reselling on Ebay, flipping cars, or baby sitting. Usually I get shot down completely because “they don’t have extra time” (then why are we talking?) or they humor me and blow it off later.
Then I will try to talk about the big expenses instead, and suggest things like moving into something more affordable or getting roommates. I have gotten back “I can’t move, that would take forever” or “I won’t live with strangers and psychos”. Because yes, I was totally suggesting that they put out a roommate ad requesting murderers and rapists *heavy sarcasm*. Our best roommates have been friends or at least acquaintances first…
I understand that some people don’t want to sacrifice anything at all. They like their life the way it is enough to avoid all change, even good change. And that is 100% great with me. BUT, don’t say stupid stuff to try to justify the way you live.
I spend more money than I have to. I know that my husband and I can spend less on food, splurges like lawn care, and we could cut cable. We don’t because we are fine with saving what we save and spending what we spend. That seems a little more realistic than saying that “we can’t cut cable” or “of course we need to eat out a few times a week”.
Just be honest with yourself. Then figure out if you want to change or not. But don’t blame God, fate, providence, etc. because you choose to pass up opportunities. As Marie said earlier this week, wealth is a choice. About 10% of you may honestly be in a crappy position right now that you have very little control over. If so, this post is not intended for you. This is for the majority of us that are perfectly capable of achieving our goals but make excuses instead.
What do you think? Know anybody that either whines and does nothing or is just fine with leaving it to fate?
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