Today’s post is venting. Feel free to come back tomorrow for Happy Crystal again.
Stop Being a Baby!
I am freaking sick of some people right now! Specifically, people that go out of their way to be offended.
Now I understand that some things are offensive – like calling a redhead a tampon if you are not Tim Minchin (seriously, click that for a really awesome song about prejudice). But I could barely hold back a laugh while I wrote that, so obviously even that is not too offensive to me. But I do concede that some things are just offensive, the way they are said are offensive, and that the people saying them are flat-out douches. I will not argue that being offended is impossible.
But stop TRYING to be offended! It’s stupid. Here is what set me off…
Apparently, a gray dress at Target was being offered in “Dark Heather Gray” at some sizes, but “Manatee Gray” in the plus sizes. Okay, so I laughed right off the bat, but a bunch of people were not amused. But it wasn’t an intended offense. Manatee Gray was a standard color in lots of other stuff too, not just plus sizes, but one group of marketers for the regular sizes picked one color name and the other marketing group picked the other.
BUT, even after Target apologized profusely, explained the mistake, and even all of the activists decided they didn’t really suck, there were hundreds of offended people threatening to boycott Target. STOP LETTING PEOPLE OFFEND YOU THAT EASILY!!!
I am a 5’2″ woman who is chubby at my current 165 pounds. At 180 pounds in 2010, I was fat. I do not see “fat” as a derogatory term. It was just a description of my roundness. Whatever. Thin, chubby, or fat, that whole situation should be HILARIOUS to you! If it’s not, ouch. If the term “Manatee Gray” makes you want to strike against Target , then you must spend a lot of time being very mad at the world. I mean, if that little thing can really tick you off, what’s traffic like for you? Or family reunions? Or most comedy shows? Or anything anybody says to customer service reps? The world is filled with way more cutdowns than “Manatee Gray” and those are intended.
Mean What You Say and Say What You Mean
I accidentally offend people a lot. I usually say pretty much whatever pops into my head. I would think that is a good thing since you always know where I stand. No mysteries here. BUT, I still seem to get misunderstood regularly. It happens pretty often – someone will read into something I said and get really sad or angry. Then I have to explain that I actually only meant what I said and sort of apologize. Then I get mad or sad because I feel like I have to walk on eggshells not to piss people off. That’s no way to live. So here it is:
I MEAN WHAT I SAY and I SAY WHAT I MEAN. Period. Please don’t look for ways that I might be trying to make a dig. I make my digs directly. You’ll know. I do not have the time to be passive-aggressive. At least, not to anyone but family, lol. I am sarcastic, but I try to make that really obvious. That means that if you think I am fussing at you right now, nope. This is a general vent meant for the world at large, nothing specific in mind except for the Target issue. Promise.
What do you think? Are people just looking for ways to be offended? Do you ever wish everyone would just be way more transparent and then you could just use a sense of humor to handle most of the stupid stuff?