Sometimes, money just doesn’t matter as much as your sanity. I think I am going to take a little break from being on top of absolutely everything money-related for a couple of months at least.
Driving My Spouse Crazy
On Monday, I went inside of a Popeyes Chicken to get a $1 refund since they overcharged us in the drive-through for hubby’s meal. Since Mr. BFS had already paid and just wanted to blow it off, it annoyed him that I pursued it. I was annoyed that he was annoyed at me for getting our money back, so we started snapping at each other (come on, admit it, that is always how the stupid fights start…)
Anyway, the end result was that Mr. BFS thinks that I prioritize money above all and it frustrates him when I expect him to do the same. Well, boogers on that. I don’t want to worry about money any more than the next person, but I sort of just naturally do…
That said, I am now on a self-imposed money-thinking break. I’ll still get the bills paid and do the basics, but we are not tracking our food spending or anything else. We’ll just do what we normally do and see what happens.
Not a Spending Spree
Please note that we are not going to start spending willy-nilly. I just won’t be tracking every dollar that goes out. My best guess is that when I get him to take a look a couple of months down the line, I bet that our food spending will be higher than normal and there will be a few splurges that weren’t planned. That’s always what happens when I stop tracking everything. But if that makes married life easier, the extra $200 a month will be worth it. We’ll see.
And yes, before you ask, this is my own idea. I still want to slap Mr. BFS upside the head simply since I don’t agree…I think my priorities are clearly people, then money, then everything else. But if he wants stuff to be more laid back, I can at least try and see what happens. If we really don’t start wasting tons of money, then maybe I will keep the budget-crazy part of myself on a leash. But if we obviously start spending a lot more, he’s just going to have to deal with me being more money-oriented than him. So we’ll see…
What this means for all of you is simply that I will not be posting food spending updates. That’s all that’ll change here, lol. I can be more laid back with tracking, but the money part of my brain will never turn fully off. So no worries, BFS will stay pretty much exactly the same, hahaha. I will be leaning on all of you to talk money since I am going to try to shut up about it at home. 😉
Have you ever had to just back off to keep your significant other from exploding into a million pieces?
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