This blog post is part of the Suicide Prevention Awareness Month blog tour in partnership with Debt Drop. If you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741. #EndtheStigma #DebtDrop
Last year around this time for #WSPD16, I posted about my own depression and the steps I take to feel less shitty. But suicide isn’t just considered by people who are depressed. It’s the ultimate out from anything. The problem is that once that path is taken, you never get a chance to see what would have happened next. So before it even gets to that point, how can we avoid wanting to escape?
What do you need? How can we all best be there for you?
What I Need
For me, it’s my people – my “tribe”. My husband, our parents, and our friends make it possible to make it through anything. My tribe is full of caring, dependable people. Granted, my support network grows and shrinks and changes with time, but that is okay too. The key is simply being part of something bigger than yourself.
Creating Your Support Network
If you don’t have a tribe, reach out to others and start making one. Email me at [email protected]*dot*com, join hobby groups, find a church you agree with, get involved with your community, volunteer for organizations you respect, etc.
Meeting people is the first step.
Then start those bonds that create long-term friends. Be there for others. Offer to help when/if you can. Have a listening ear. Share your funny life stories. And avoid people who would made crappy tribe members – if they are leaches or total monkey butts, just keep looking. Great senses of humor are a bonus.
Pets Rely On You Too
If friends/people just aren’t your thing, maybe consider owning a pet or even fostering for rescues. Just having the responsibility of taking care of another living entity usually is enough to get me out of bed. If it returns affection, even better. Check out rescues in your area for everything from dogs and cats to hamsters, rabbits, horses, pigs, etc.
Creating a life that is less centered on yourself and more on others generally gives perspective. That perspective may help as seemingly insurmountable life events pop up…it becomes way easier to handle if you aren’t focusing on it like the only thing that matters.
Suicide is a very personal choice. I understand people suffering before painful deaths who would want to just stop all of that early. But if you are considering a very permanent goodbye for something that has the possibility of improving, please don’t. You should stick around and make a difference. Just smiling at strangers can do that. Absolutely everyone has the ability to make someone else’s life just a smidge better with each behavioral choice we make.
Would it be easier to just check out? Maybe. But easy doesn’t lead to those other life moments that are purely divine. You don’t get to watch Firefly or Princess Bride with a newbie for the first time. You don’t get to eat a snow cone on a hot day. You don’t get to make your people feel better on their bad days. No more laughing with friends through truly bad movies. Just no more. That’s a huge price to pay for in-the-moment relief.
Please ask for help instead. Or take a spontaneous trip. Sleep in your backyard or at a friend’s house. Just get yourself out of whatever situation you are in and think a bit harder on your next steps.
Good luck. Again, let us know below if there is a way we can help. Email me if you just need to vent. Take a breath and try a less permanent solution instead.
Once again, if you are feeling suicidal, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text HOME to 741741.
FYI: I worked at a dead end cubicle job from 2005-2011 for about $30,000 per year. I went self-employed in July 2011 and make between $70,000-$90,000 through blogging, professional pet sitting, hubby's reffing, and our rental home. If you’d like to start your own site (link to my free step-by-step guide), I highly suggest checking out Bluehost (my referral link with a nice discount for you, PLUS a free custom header banner from me!). Please contact me any time at budgetingfunstuff*at*gmail*dot*com with questions or just to brainstorm! I’d love to help!